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<blockquote data-quote="ksm" data-source="post: 748766" data-attributes="member: 12511"><p>Since you are meeting at a restaurant, you can plan a quick exit plan ahead of time. I admire you for asking them to dinner. Maybe other family and friends might give them a place to stay. Maybe have a friend call you at a specific time...and that gives you an "out"... If you need one. </p><p></p><p>I guess I would try to lower my expectations. Not to bite the bait he might dangle in front of you. My older does this to me often...states some way out there, off the wall plans, just to see how I would respond. </p><p></p><p>The last time, I was prepared! She non chalantly stated she had a chance to go to Louisiana and stay with a friend. (A "friend" usually means someone she is only FB friends with). I immediately responded positively! And made suggestions like...update your address on your drivers license immediately to prove residency. Let's pack up your excess stuff and put in our storage shed. She never mentioned it again!</p><p></p><p>Then I would have a "sending" quote or two ready. Something positive, like I have only wanted good things in your future and for you to be happy. I hope you and your girlfriend are happy and your future is what you dream and strive for.</p><p></p><p>If there is some favorite thing of his at your home, maybe bring it and offer it to him, a favorite photo, a souveniour, a book. Just a "I ran across this last week, and I remembered how much you liked it. If you want, you can keep it, if you have room in your car."</p><p></p><p>Good luck. You can do this, and maybe there will be something positive come out of it!</p><p></p><p>Ksm</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ksm, post: 748766, member: 12511"] Since you are meeting at a restaurant, you can plan a quick exit plan ahead of time. I admire you for asking them to dinner. Maybe other family and friends might give them a place to stay. Maybe have a friend call you at a specific time...and that gives you an "out"... If you need one. I guess I would try to lower my expectations. Not to bite the bait he might dangle in front of you. My older does this to me often...states some way out there, off the wall plans, just to see how I would respond. The last time, I was prepared! She non chalantly stated she had a chance to go to Louisiana and stay with a friend. (A "friend" usually means someone she is only FB friends with). I immediately responded positively! And made suggestions like...update your address on your drivers license immediately to prove residency. Let's pack up your excess stuff and put in our storage shed. She never mentioned it again! Then I would have a "sending" quote or two ready. Something positive, like I have only wanted good things in your future and for you to be happy. I hope you and your girlfriend are happy and your future is what you dream and strive for. If there is some favorite thing of his at your home, maybe bring it and offer it to him, a favorite photo, a souveniour, a book. Just a "I ran across this last week, and I remembered how much you liked it. If you want, you can keep it, if you have room in your car." Good luck. You can do this, and maybe there will be something positive come out of it! Ksm [/QUOTE]
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