JJJ
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Kanga has been insistent for the last year or so that I am just mean and like to punish her. The school was little help as they gave her As for almost no work and citizenship awards for putting her trash in the garbage.
We had her moved to a new school because the old one (except for teachers giving her warm fuzzies for breathing) was killer on her self-worth as they made her sit in a regular ed room where she didn't understand what was being taught and she was being bullied.
This new school is awesome. They don't baby the Special Education kids. They support them in their areas of disability but they are expected to give 100%. Kanga is getting mostly Ds and Fs. She has been banned from participating in track meets the rest of the year.
Why am I excited about her failing? Because, for the first time in her life, she is being allowed to suffer the natural consequences for her poor choices (no sympathetic teachers to baby her!!) Her Special Education teacher makes Kanga grade her projects with her so that Kanga can see that she loses all her points because she turns in sloppy, half-finished work. The gym teacher gives her demerits (and a detention) for forgetting her gym uniform and tells her that it is her responsibility to remember it. The track coach tells her that because she chose to not come to practice, she lost the chance to participate in the meets. Each and every adult at that school seems to be reinforcing that her choices are causing her consequences.
I can finally be the one to offer sympathy that she has to suffer . I no longer have to hand out all punishments!!! And she knows that I will not bail her out of these punishments so while she gives a half-hearted effort for me to "help", she drops it when I tell her that I am sorry that she is feeling bad but that at junior high, responsibility is between the teachers and the students and that they don't let the moms interfere :smile:
We had her moved to a new school because the old one (except for teachers giving her warm fuzzies for breathing) was killer on her self-worth as they made her sit in a regular ed room where she didn't understand what was being taught and she was being bullied.
This new school is awesome. They don't baby the Special Education kids. They support them in their areas of disability but they are expected to give 100%. Kanga is getting mostly Ds and Fs. She has been banned from participating in track meets the rest of the year.
Why am I excited about her failing? Because, for the first time in her life, she is being allowed to suffer the natural consequences for her poor choices (no sympathetic teachers to baby her!!) Her Special Education teacher makes Kanga grade her projects with her so that Kanga can see that she loses all her points because she turns in sloppy, half-finished work. The gym teacher gives her demerits (and a detention) for forgetting her gym uniform and tells her that it is her responsibility to remember it. The track coach tells her that because she chose to not come to practice, she lost the chance to participate in the meets. Each and every adult at that school seems to be reinforcing that her choices are causing her consequences.
I can finally be the one to offer sympathy that she has to suffer . I no longer have to hand out all punishments!!! And she knows that I will not bail her out of these punishments so while she gives a half-hearted effort for me to "help", she drops it when I tell her that I am sorry that she is feeling bad but that at junior high, responsibility is between the teachers and the students and that they don't let the moms interfere :smile:
