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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 112965" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>Lisa, maybe a hud apt with a roommate so she can work out how to live independently. </p><p>Living with a guy is such a time bomb. I understand your concerns.</p><p>My difficult child doesn't get that my responsibility to him changes as he grows and takes over those tasks. If I fed him all of his life then why would he learn? It's not a selfish thing just part of being emotionally immature. Nothing changes from the time he was 9yrs old.</p><p>All difficult child has going for him is that he wants to have a job to be proud of, a significant other to come home to and a desire to have what others take for granted. This is his motivation and my carrot to dangle. I told him to tell me when he thinks he has reached his maximium ability and I would back off. I know this isn't easy for him and he is trying, stumbling and trying again. </p><p></p><p>I hope you can help her find some sort of plan for her future and take small steps forward. She seems to be a drift in her own life and then creates drama to cover how lost she feels. </p><p></p><p>I think my difficult child covers his sense of fear and confusion about his life with being argumentive and difficult. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 112965, member: 3"] Lisa, maybe a hud apt with a roommate so she can work out how to live independently. Living with a guy is such a time bomb. I understand your concerns. My difficult child doesn't get that my responsibility to him changes as he grows and takes over those tasks. If I fed him all of his life then why would he learn? It's not a selfish thing just part of being emotionally immature. Nothing changes from the time he was 9yrs old. All difficult child has going for him is that he wants to have a job to be proud of, a significant other to come home to and a desire to have what others take for granted. This is his motivation and my carrot to dangle. I told him to tell me when he thinks he has reached his maximium ability and I would back off. I know this isn't easy for him and he is trying, stumbling and trying again. I hope you can help her find some sort of plan for her future and take small steps forward. She seems to be a drift in her own life and then creates drama to cover how lost she feels. I think my difficult child covers his sense of fear and confusion about his life with being argumentive and difficult. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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