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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 721480" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Lost</p><p></p><p>Do NOT beat yourself up or feel guilty!! Stop it right now.</p><p></p><p>You love your son. You are trying to let him live with the consequences of his actions. That is what GOOD parents do!! We've all made mistakes and will continue to do so. It's hard to think straight when you're in the grips of this.</p><p></p><p>I'm finding that punishment doesn't work with my son. It makes no sense. He does not learn from his mistakes. He is bright but stupid.</p><p></p><p>We have promised our son also that after his 13 months in the faith based facility he is at he can come home but ONLY to either go to school or work or have some plan in place and NOT to live permanently. Husband felt if he is sober that long that we should let him. I am wondering if that was a wise "promise" to make also.</p><p></p><p>I can tell you right now that if I decide I don't want to do it, it won't happen. Unless I see a 100% turnaround it will not happen and I'll go back on my promise. Not that we won't help him in some way ONLY IF HE IS HELPING HIMSELF but probably not in my home. If I do go back on my promise I will not beat myself up. I just won't.</p><p></p><p>And if he yells and stomps?? Oh no. Sorry dude. Not happening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 721480, member: 15032"] Lost Do NOT beat yourself up or feel guilty!! Stop it right now. You love your son. You are trying to let him live with the consequences of his actions. That is what GOOD parents do!! We've all made mistakes and will continue to do so. It's hard to think straight when you're in the grips of this. I'm finding that punishment doesn't work with my son. It makes no sense. He does not learn from his mistakes. He is bright but stupid. We have promised our son also that after his 13 months in the faith based facility he is at he can come home but ONLY to either go to school or work or have some plan in place and NOT to live permanently. Husband felt if he is sober that long that we should let him. I am wondering if that was a wise "promise" to make also. I can tell you right now that if I decide I don't want to do it, it won't happen. Unless I see a 100% turnaround it will not happen and I'll go back on my promise. Not that we won't help him in some way ONLY IF HE IS HELPING HIMSELF but probably not in my home. If I do go back on my promise I will not beat myself up. I just won't. And if he yells and stomps?? Oh no. Sorry dude. Not happening. [/QUOTE]
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