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<blockquote data-quote="Pony1798" data-source="post: 399635"><p>Thanks to all who have responded with tips and such wonderful words of wisdom. Joining this forum was one of the best things I've ever done. </p><p> </p><p>I'm learning to "disconnect" yet will continue to let my daughter know I am here; I am there for her, when she's ready to come back.</p><p> </p><p>I also know that when/if she comes back to me, I need to continue to have rules and boundaries for her. This ultimately may boomerang her right back to her Dad. But I guess I will have the satisfaction of knowing I was the better parent for having boundaries for her, and that in time, she will realize that it was my love for her, not "meanness" that was the reality, that helped spark the argument/estrangement. And that her hands-off Dad was the more "questionnable", unfit parent.</p><p> </p><p>I've got another 1.5 years (til she graduates HS) that I will have to deal. I know I need to stay strong, smart, calm.</p><p> </p><p>The demon for me right now is trying to tolerate missing her so much. We had a GREAT and very close relationship up until a short while ago. I miss her living with me, her great personality and other positive qualities that stood in such stark contrast to her defiant qualities. I want to "mother" too, in terms of having her come to me at, say, the end of the day when we both are home, and she asks me for help with homework, or advice on a trying social problem. This is a "hole" in my life right now. But I realize I have to let go, accept, move on, get a life outside of mothering. I will also have to swallow down the bile at paying her dad child support if/when it comes to that (situation brewing, I know.... as long as she decides to live with him fulltime). I know him well. The court actions are probably being drafted as I write this.</p><p> </p><p>I am greatly supported and helped by this group. Again, thank you to all, and I continue to certainly welcome tips for coping/acting and if any of you has gone through, or are going through, similar (expletive withheld).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Pony1798, post: 399635"] Thanks to all who have responded with tips and such wonderful words of wisdom. Joining this forum was one of the best things I've ever done. I'm learning to "disconnect" yet will continue to let my daughter know I am here; I am there for her, when she's ready to come back. I also know that when/if she comes back to me, I need to continue to have rules and boundaries for her. This ultimately may boomerang her right back to her Dad. But I guess I will have the satisfaction of knowing I was the better parent for having boundaries for her, and that in time, she will realize that it was my love for her, not "meanness" that was the reality, that helped spark the argument/estrangement. And that her hands-off Dad was the more "questionnable", unfit parent. I've got another 1.5 years (til she graduates HS) that I will have to deal. I know I need to stay strong, smart, calm. The demon for me right now is trying to tolerate missing her so much. We had a GREAT and very close relationship up until a short while ago. I miss her living with me, her great personality and other positive qualities that stood in such stark contrast to her defiant qualities. I want to "mother" too, in terms of having her come to me at, say, the end of the day when we both are home, and she asks me for help with homework, or advice on a trying social problem. This is a "hole" in my life right now. But I realize I have to let go, accept, move on, get a life outside of mothering. I will also have to swallow down the bile at paying her dad child support if/when it comes to that (situation brewing, I know.... as long as she decides to live with him fulltime). I know him well. The court actions are probably being drafted as I write this. I am greatly supported and helped by this group. Again, thank you to all, and I continue to certainly welcome tips for coping/acting and if any of you has gone through, or are going through, similar (expletive withheld). [/QUOTE]
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