Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Need Advice on How to Deal with Teen Daughter Argument and Estrangement
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Pony1798" data-source="post: 400362"><p>Well, I get the whole theory/concern that both my ex and I are afraid of her not talking or relating to us. Its called the fear of rejection. I admit to that fear. But I also hate the fear that invades me everytime she has either snuck out of the house at night or failed to come home at all, entire nights. Like all of us, I hate fear. But would rather ensure her safety and wellbeing, so yes, the stricter parenting of my difficult child will continue once she returns to my household, if she returns. And yes I will strive to find a way where my ex and I can return to better co-parenting of her despite his chosen angst against me. I should add that he is the type of person that holds grudges forever. He has one heck of a mountain of a grudge against me. It's hard if not even possible to relate with someone with his personality. The last time I tried talking to him on the phone, after she pulled one of her all-nighters, he wouldn't even say anything. Dead, non-committal silence was all I got.</p><p> </p><p>To all you divorced parents out there, sharing households and custody with the kids, take my advice. Even if you have to swallow down the bile ... do all you can do to communicate and act amicably with your ex. Because I am now of the opinion that alot of kids nowadays will play the one parent off the other one, to their advantage. Just read my story so far. It is testiment to that fact/reality. And its sad. The kid AND the parents end up paying dearly.</p><p> </p><p>What does she do while she's gone? I am clueless. I don't have $$ to hire a PI. I haven't rigged GPS on her car. But yes, due to a recent very noticeable weight loss, plus the time spent away, plus the rather 'undesirable' types she has chosen for friends, plus sliding grades at school (I've checked).... I wouldn't doubt she may be into drugs.</p><p> </p><p>I saw my therapist yesterday. She reinforced the need to still tough-love-parent this kid, even if it means her running away from me yet again.</p><p> </p><p>Parenting is not for cowards. My first two, I thought, were handfulls. But they were nothing compared to this current dilemma I have with my youngest.</p><p> </p><p>I</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Pony1798, post: 400362"] Well, I get the whole theory/concern that both my ex and I are afraid of her not talking or relating to us. Its called the fear of rejection. I admit to that fear. But I also hate the fear that invades me everytime she has either snuck out of the house at night or failed to come home at all, entire nights. Like all of us, I hate fear. But would rather ensure her safety and wellbeing, so yes, the stricter parenting of my difficult child will continue once she returns to my household, if she returns. And yes I will strive to find a way where my ex and I can return to better co-parenting of her despite his chosen angst against me. I should add that he is the type of person that holds grudges forever. He has one heck of a mountain of a grudge against me. It's hard if not even possible to relate with someone with his personality. The last time I tried talking to him on the phone, after she pulled one of her all-nighters, he wouldn't even say anything. Dead, non-committal silence was all I got. To all you divorced parents out there, sharing households and custody with the kids, take my advice. Even if you have to swallow down the bile ... do all you can do to communicate and act amicably with your ex. Because I am now of the opinion that alot of kids nowadays will play the one parent off the other one, to their advantage. Just read my story so far. It is testiment to that fact/reality. And its sad. The kid AND the parents end up paying dearly. What does she do while she's gone? I am clueless. I don't have $$ to hire a PI. I haven't rigged GPS on her car. But yes, due to a recent very noticeable weight loss, plus the time spent away, plus the rather 'undesirable' types she has chosen for friends, plus sliding grades at school (I've checked).... I wouldn't doubt she may be into drugs. I saw my therapist yesterday. She reinforced the need to still tough-love-parent this kid, even if it means her running away from me yet again. Parenting is not for cowards. My first two, I thought, were handfulls. But they were nothing compared to this current dilemma I have with my youngest. I [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Need Advice on How to Deal with Teen Daughter Argument and Estrangement
Top