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Need Advice on How to Deal with Teen Daughter Argument and Estrangement
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 612136" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi there.</p><p></p><p>This is an old post. You'll get a bigger response if you start your own thread. I don't know if she is into drugs at all, but if so you may do better on the Substance Abuse forum. </p><p></p><p>When difficult kids, who don't walk to the beat of a socially appropriate drum, have two parents to choose from, and one of the parents is more lenient, it is very common for the child to want to live with the lenient parent. As she gets older, this could very well change. She may appreciate you much more when she is more mature.</p><p></p><p>We would have to know more about her and her situation for more solid advice, but right now all I can say is I'm really sorry for your hurting mommy heart and to let go of what you can not control...such as how your ex parents your daughter. There isn't anything you can do about it. It may be appropriate to start looking into detachment. You can find stuff about detachment on the Parent Emeritus site. The truth is, your daughter is too old for you to control HER either, especially since Daddy will be there to rescue her. It is very hard to let go of that wish for control...but many of us had to do it and are now living happy lives in spite of the bad choices some of our grown kids make. Your daughter is not quite grown, but she is getting close to that number eighteen in which no parent can legally control her child anymore...it is a scary place to be. I feel for you. In spite of your hurting heart, please be sure to take care of yourself. You matter too!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 612136, member: 1550"] Hi there. This is an old post. You'll get a bigger response if you start your own thread. I don't know if she is into drugs at all, but if so you may do better on the Substance Abuse forum. When difficult kids, who don't walk to the beat of a socially appropriate drum, have two parents to choose from, and one of the parents is more lenient, it is very common for the child to want to live with the lenient parent. As she gets older, this could very well change. She may appreciate you much more when she is more mature. We would have to know more about her and her situation for more solid advice, but right now all I can say is I'm really sorry for your hurting mommy heart and to let go of what you can not control...such as how your ex parents your daughter. There isn't anything you can do about it. It may be appropriate to start looking into detachment. You can find stuff about detachment on the Parent Emeritus site. The truth is, your daughter is too old for you to control HER either, especially since Daddy will be there to rescue her. It is very hard to let go of that wish for control...but many of us had to do it and are now living happy lives in spite of the bad choices some of our grown kids make. Your daughter is not quite grown, but she is getting close to that number eighteen in which no parent can legally control her child anymore...it is a scary place to be. I feel for you. In spite of your hurting heart, please be sure to take care of yourself. You matter too!!! [/QUOTE]
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