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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 372226" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>I know this is pretty much not in the right place but you guys have such a great knowledge base and are probably the only ones who can help.</p><p> </p><p>The deal is that I have an extended family member who has serious issues. These started in adolesence, however they have now progressed into full blown adult problems. The person is 25, in deep denial and sheltered by a thick web of enabling. This person will also very likely technically become my problem in the next few decades when the chief enabler is no longer capable of care. </p><p> </p><p>A *potential* diagnosis to discuss with chief enabler may be a huge help to not just myself but this obviously ill person.</p><p> </p><p>Original presentation: Teen boy, broken family, child of an alcoholic father who was deep into conspiracy theories and rationalizing so learned bad behavior early on.</p><p> </p><p>Developed an ulcer due to social anxiety and was victim of a lot of teasing in middle school. Very bright young man who expresses himself well in writing, did well in school except for math. One good friend at the time and socially withdrawn with everyone else. Was home schooled due to refusal to go to school due to social pressures.</p><p> </p><p>Fast forward to now: Never got a first job. Withdrawn and does not have emotional connection with anyone. Stayed at an emotional age of 13 to 15. Lives with and off of mother who is too tired from supporting him to argue with him or encourage him. (Me thinks he is a substitute "husband" to a woman who is reclusive and used to abusive men) Rarely leaves the house, generally dislikes society and people. Very negative, seemingly depressed, very selfish, overeats and is morbidly obese. Hypocondriac who turns small issues such as an ingrown toe nail as a reason to not be helpful to anyone or to work. Constant state of denial, refuses to recognize his own issues and has some ideas that seem a little further from reality than most. </p><p> </p><p>Recap:</p><p>no job</p><p>no friends</p><p>rarely leaves house</p><p>rarely even goes outside for sun</p><p>slight odd maybe Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) as well</p><p>depressesd</p><p>touch of paranoia and delusion</p><p>Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) video gaming</p><p>no hobbies or activities</p><p>never had a girlfriend</p><p>essentially spent last decade sitting in his dark room glued to video games, getting huge with once a month outings at best.</p><p> </p><p>Lately we have pressed him to get a drivers license and some family has expected him to work some odd jobs for them so his hostility level has risen. (he is a huge whiney baby aside from any real issues)<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /></p><p> </p><p>I am on the fence about whether this guy is sincerely not okay or if he is just a professional mooch. I don't want to have to adopt him some day but if the chief enabler lets things continue my home is the only one between him and the street.</p><p> </p><p>I do want this person to get help and I do care about them. It's just hard with his generally nasty moods and selfish behavior. He REFUSES to go to the doctor and denies there is anything wrong with the way he lives so this is an uphill battle. I thought that if I had somewhere to start that I could get him help. I don't want to get stuck with a 40 year old difficult child after my kids are grown...<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/whiteflag.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":whiteflag:" title="whiteflag :whiteflag:" data-shortname=":whiteflag:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 372226, member: 8617"] I know this is pretty much not in the right place but you guys have such a great knowledge base and are probably the only ones who can help. The deal is that I have an extended family member who has serious issues. These started in adolesence, however they have now progressed into full blown adult problems. The person is 25, in deep denial and sheltered by a thick web of enabling. This person will also very likely technically become my problem in the next few decades when the chief enabler is no longer capable of care. A *potential* diagnosis to discuss with chief enabler may be a huge help to not just myself but this obviously ill person. Original presentation: Teen boy, broken family, child of an alcoholic father who was deep into conspiracy theories and rationalizing so learned bad behavior early on. Developed an ulcer due to social anxiety and was victim of a lot of teasing in middle school. Very bright young man who expresses himself well in writing, did well in school except for math. One good friend at the time and socially withdrawn with everyone else. Was home schooled due to refusal to go to school due to social pressures. Fast forward to now: Never got a first job. Withdrawn and does not have emotional connection with anyone. Stayed at an emotional age of 13 to 15. Lives with and off of mother who is too tired from supporting him to argue with him or encourage him. (Me thinks he is a substitute "husband" to a woman who is reclusive and used to abusive men) Rarely leaves the house, generally dislikes society and people. Very negative, seemingly depressed, very selfish, overeats and is morbidly obese. Hypocondriac who turns small issues such as an ingrown toe nail as a reason to not be helpful to anyone or to work. Constant state of denial, refuses to recognize his own issues and has some ideas that seem a little further from reality than most. Recap: no job no friends rarely leaves house rarely even goes outside for sun slight odd maybe Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) as well depressesd touch of paranoia and delusion Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) video gaming no hobbies or activities never had a girlfriend essentially spent last decade sitting in his dark room glued to video games, getting huge with once a month outings at best. Lately we have pressed him to get a drivers license and some family has expected him to work some odd jobs for them so his hostility level has risen. (he is a huge whiney baby aside from any real issues):angry: I am on the fence about whether this guy is sincerely not okay or if he is just a professional mooch. I don't want to have to adopt him some day but if the chief enabler lets things continue my home is the only one between him and the street. I do want this person to get help and I do care about them. It's just hard with his generally nasty moods and selfish behavior. He REFUSES to go to the doctor and denies there is anything wrong with the way he lives so this is an uphill battle. I thought that if I had somewhere to start that I could get him help. I don't want to get stuck with a 40 year old difficult child after my kids are grown...:whiteflag: [/QUOTE]
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