toughlovin
Well-Known Member
Ok so if you have followed my story you know that my son just got placed in a dual diagnosis tx pgm through drug court. I had a good feeling about the place and it is very strict. My son has issues with rules and I know this will be hard for him but it is what he needs.
So he called yesterday to see if we could get his property back from the jail, including his wallet and two phones. He got help in sending the jail the required paperwork and we did that and picked it up last night. He needs his wallet because it has his only ID in it. So we were going to bring it to him on Monday.
So he called me today to see if we could drop it off tomorrow. We can because we will actually be near where he will be. I was asking the times he would be there and he actually may not be there when we can drop it off.... because he is going to a "sober dance". I said that sounds like fun and he made some cynical remark. I said something about well maybe you can learn to have fun being sober!!
So I said we would bring the wallet but eh is not allowed to have a phone correct? He said true but brings the phone because I want them kept in my property here. I said why.... and he said are you coming to the support group on Monday I will talk to you about it then!! Alarm bells starting ringing.... and I knew he didnt feel he could talk freely because he is being supervised. I said why so you have it if you decide to leave? He said well yeah that and I will talk to you Monday. So I said I would drop off the wallet and some cigarettes tomorrow and would think about the phones.
So I am of two minds. I dont want to do anything to help him walk out of another program!! on the other hand if he does leave I would want him to have a phone. And a part of me feels like s***w it it is his life, and if he walks out he will end up in jail and just let it happen.
So what would you do?
TL
So he called yesterday to see if we could get his property back from the jail, including his wallet and two phones. He got help in sending the jail the required paperwork and we did that and picked it up last night. He needs his wallet because it has his only ID in it. So we were going to bring it to him on Monday.
So he called me today to see if we could drop it off tomorrow. We can because we will actually be near where he will be. I was asking the times he would be there and he actually may not be there when we can drop it off.... because he is going to a "sober dance". I said that sounds like fun and he made some cynical remark. I said something about well maybe you can learn to have fun being sober!!
So I said we would bring the wallet but eh is not allowed to have a phone correct? He said true but brings the phone because I want them kept in my property here. I said why.... and he said are you coming to the support group on Monday I will talk to you about it then!! Alarm bells starting ringing.... and I knew he didnt feel he could talk freely because he is being supervised. I said why so you have it if you decide to leave? He said well yeah that and I will talk to you Monday. So I said I would drop off the wallet and some cigarettes tomorrow and would think about the phones.
So I am of two minds. I dont want to do anything to help him walk out of another program!! on the other hand if he does leave I would want him to have a phone. And a part of me feels like s***w it it is his life, and if he walks out he will end up in jail and just let it happen.
So what would you do?
TL