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Need help (or an intervention) - she stepped up her game
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 701711" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>McDonna, just catching up with this thread, and read all of the posts. </p><p></p><p>You did amazing! Kudos to you for staying the course with a kind message and setting boundaries about your involvement. </p><p></p><p>And see...she got things solved. Isn't it interesting how that happens? Isn't that just so interesting? </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I think this is 100 percent on the money. That doesn't mean she wasn't having troubles, but she was using those troubles to hook you once again.</p><p></p><p>And since you were physically a long way away, and emotionally to the place where you didn't react, but responded, you were able to stand back, stand down and let her do whatever she was going to do.</p><p></p><p>I used to feel the strange sense of calm, like you are feeling, and then the tears, about how sad it all is, when I was able to let go of Difficult Child and just stand back. </p><p></p><p>He had multiple "emergencies", including hospital stays, and there was a lot of drama, leaving the hospital AMA, anger, disrespect, yelling at me in the ER, etc. </p><p></p><p>All I know is this: It's not supposed to be this way. </p><p></p><p>When our DCs are sick or ill, it's so different than when other adults are sick or ill.</p><p></p><p>And once we respond differently, things start to change. You are seeing that.</p><p></p><p>I would deep breathe, be glad you're blocked from her FB, and pray for her well-being. You can't do a thing anyway except embrace the uncertainty of life, and the letting go. </p><p></p><p>Believe me, she'll be back. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there, and I'm hoping both you and she are better tonight.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 701711, member: 17542"] McDonna, just catching up with this thread, and read all of the posts. You did amazing! Kudos to you for staying the course with a kind message and setting boundaries about your involvement. And see...she got things solved. Isn't it interesting how that happens? Isn't that just so interesting? I think this is 100 percent on the money. That doesn't mean she wasn't having troubles, but she was using those troubles to hook you once again. And since you were physically a long way away, and emotionally to the place where you didn't react, but responded, you were able to stand back, stand down and let her do whatever she was going to do. I used to feel the strange sense of calm, like you are feeling, and then the tears, about how sad it all is, when I was able to let go of Difficult Child and just stand back. He had multiple "emergencies", including hospital stays, and there was a lot of drama, leaving the hospital AMA, anger, disrespect, yelling at me in the ER, etc. All I know is this: It's not supposed to be this way. When our DCs are sick or ill, it's so different than when other adults are sick or ill. And once we respond differently, things start to change. You are seeing that. I would deep breathe, be glad you're blocked from her FB, and pray for her well-being. You can't do a thing anyway except embrace the uncertainty of life, and the letting go. Believe me, she'll be back. Hang in there, and I'm hoping both you and she are better tonight. [/QUOTE]
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