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Need help (or an intervention) - she stepped up her game
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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 701809" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>What a long and stressful saga. I guess the take away is that </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>now is the time to resist wasting anymore time. Let it go. You know that she was not ever in danger, was not ill, and was horribly cruel to you. That is enough. No further details needed, no further conversations with lawyers, friends, or orphanages in Uganda (I know you didn't talk with them). Try "oh, I'm sorry. My daughter is 27...she makes her own decisions so I can't help you. Thank you for calling!(emailing texting whatever). '</p><p></p><p>As for your daughter...wow. The more distance you can create the better for your health. You can't fix her or change her or trust her. I probably wouldn't even challenge her. Skim the surface as some one else said. Keep it superficial. Try not to engage. Space out contacts. Wait 24-72 hours to respond when she tries to contact you. Keep a safe distance. </p><p></p><p>Good luck. I 've been reading along and my heart has ached for you. I never believed her tale of illness, but I am so glad you got external validation. Hang on to that. </p><p></p><p>Sometimes I used to print out my posts and all the answers so I could read them again, and see how I continued to engage in the same patterns. I found it very helpful.</p><p></p><p>Strength and honor to you.</p><p></p><p>Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 701809, member: 17269"] What a long and stressful saga. I guess the take away is that now is the time to resist wasting anymore time. Let it go. You know that she was not ever in danger, was not ill, and was horribly cruel to you. That is enough. No further details needed, no further conversations with lawyers, friends, or orphanages in Uganda (I know you didn't talk with them). Try "oh, I'm sorry. My daughter is 27...she makes her own decisions so I can't help you. Thank you for calling!(emailing texting whatever). ' As for your daughter...wow. The more distance you can create the better for your health. You can't fix her or change her or trust her. I probably wouldn't even challenge her. Skim the surface as some one else said. Keep it superficial. Try not to engage. Space out contacts. Wait 24-72 hours to respond when she tries to contact you. Keep a safe distance. Good luck. I 've been reading along and my heart has ached for you. I never believed her tale of illness, but I am so glad you got external validation. Hang on to that. Sometimes I used to print out my posts and all the answers so I could read them again, and see how I continued to engage in the same patterns. I found it very helpful. Strength and honor to you. Echo [/QUOTE]
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