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Need help (or an intervention) - she stepped up her game
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 715678" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Make super sure you have legal documents drawn up with the house sitter showing that your daughter is NOT allowed to be anywhere on your property for any reason. I would have this notarized and give her several copies in case your daughter shows up and calls the cops. The house sitter can show the cops her ID and the letter and say she is the property owner's representative and the young lady who called is not allowed on the property and is not allowed to remove anything from the property for any reason under any circumstances. It just helps to protect both you and your house sitter. Then if your daughter pushes her way in with her bags and the cops don't know what to do, or how long she has been there, the house sitter can prove she has no right to be there under any circumstances. </p><p></p><p>I think the doctors who met with you and summed up your daughter hit her condition admirably. I am sure she will do all she can to scheme her way into whatever she can. I think you truly need to remember a piece of advice my aunt is forever handing out to people. I first heard it when I was about 10, at least that I remember.</p><p></p><p>No is a complete sentence.</p><p></p><p>You would be so shocked at how often a simple 'No' saves you from being taken advantage of. I have heard so many ways to sell products, and most of them don't work if the person you approach just says No. They say No and then give you a reason. That reason is an opening. It is room for a con, for some psychological manipulation or sales ploy or advertising technique. </p><p></p><p>Your daughter is a very disturbed person, but sadly she can't be helped until she admits she needs help. Until her cons and manipulations don't work, that won't ever happen. I wouldn't hold out hope that she would ever accept help, but I would stop any and all efforts of hers to manipulate you, simply by saying a flat 'No" to all of her requests. Or at least any requests that you would not answer yes to any stranger who walked up to you off of the street, cold though that may sound. She likely will not ever understand this, or forgive you, but it will greatly protect you in the long run. </p><p></p><p>With this in mind, please make out your wills, living wills, advanced care directives, etc... so that you are not ever left to her not so tender mercies at any stage of your life. As a teen we had elderly neighbors who had narcissistic adult children who were horrible people. The adult children sold the family property (around my parent's property) out from under their parents and forced them into a really substandard nursing home. I have seen what ugly things can happen if you don't take care to be sure your disturbed adult kids cannot get control of you. Take steps NOW to be very sure this will not happen to you EVER.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 715678, member: 1233"] Make super sure you have legal documents drawn up with the house sitter showing that your daughter is NOT allowed to be anywhere on your property for any reason. I would have this notarized and give her several copies in case your daughter shows up and calls the cops. The house sitter can show the cops her ID and the letter and say she is the property owner's representative and the young lady who called is not allowed on the property and is not allowed to remove anything from the property for any reason under any circumstances. It just helps to protect both you and your house sitter. Then if your daughter pushes her way in with her bags and the cops don't know what to do, or how long she has been there, the house sitter can prove she has no right to be there under any circumstances. I think the doctors who met with you and summed up your daughter hit her condition admirably. I am sure she will do all she can to scheme her way into whatever she can. I think you truly need to remember a piece of advice my aunt is forever handing out to people. I first heard it when I was about 10, at least that I remember. No is a complete sentence. You would be so shocked at how often a simple 'No' saves you from being taken advantage of. I have heard so many ways to sell products, and most of them don't work if the person you approach just says No. They say No and then give you a reason. That reason is an opening. It is room for a con, for some psychological manipulation or sales ploy or advertising technique. Your daughter is a very disturbed person, but sadly she can't be helped until she admits she needs help. Until her cons and manipulations don't work, that won't ever happen. I wouldn't hold out hope that she would ever accept help, but I would stop any and all efforts of hers to manipulate you, simply by saying a flat 'No" to all of her requests. Or at least any requests that you would not answer yes to any stranger who walked up to you off of the street, cold though that may sound. She likely will not ever understand this, or forgive you, but it will greatly protect you in the long run. With this in mind, please make out your wills, living wills, advanced care directives, etc... so that you are not ever left to her not so tender mercies at any stage of your life. As a teen we had elderly neighbors who had narcissistic adult children who were horrible people. The adult children sold the family property (around my parent's property) out from under their parents and forced them into a really substandard nursing home. I have seen what ugly things can happen if you don't take care to be sure your disturbed adult kids cannot get control of you. Take steps NOW to be very sure this will not happen to you EVER. [/QUOTE]
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