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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 721939" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>EMDR is Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. This therapy was utilized after 911 and other disasters with great success. </p><p></p><p>Wow, what a complicated situation. And, the judgements and blame of others just makes everything so much worse. These are children. </p><p></p><p>I am a survivor of sexual abuse and have been involved in various therapies/groups/organizations over the years. When your grandson viewed inappropriate sexual behavior involving his mother, a boundary was crossed for him which can be quite devastating for a young child. With just that alone, I would urge therapy. </p><p></p><p>I think there's a distinction here between what happened to your grandson via his Mother's phone and if he did in fact participate in the recent issues. It would seem he is first a victim ......and second a possible perpetrator, but you don't know that part. Apparently, the neighborhood has already convicted him which is so sad and unfortunate, however, that is out of your control. What is in your control is to get him help and take the rest one step at a time as you are. You have all the resources you need being a teacher, so you have an advantage to move thru that system somewhat easier.</p><p></p><p>I feel such empathy for your grandson, he's still a child and for you and your husband, who are trying so hard to be there for your grandkids when the damage was done to the kids by their own parents. I can relate, having raised my granddaughter too, who had to deal with my daughter's inability to be able to successfully parent a young child. My heart goes out to you HMB.</p><p></p><p>Take it one step at a time, you don't know the truth yet. Get him some help, have him tested, trauma absolutely impacts the growing brain.....perhaps EMDR can counteract that for him. I would agree that he has been traumatized, just on what you know about his Mom's phone.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 721939, member: 13542"] EMDR is Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. This therapy was utilized after 911 and other disasters with great success. Wow, what a complicated situation. And, the judgements and blame of others just makes everything so much worse. These are children. I am a survivor of sexual abuse and have been involved in various therapies/groups/organizations over the years. When your grandson viewed inappropriate sexual behavior involving his mother, a boundary was crossed for him which can be quite devastating for a young child. With just that alone, I would urge therapy. I think there's a distinction here between what happened to your grandson via his Mother's phone and if he did in fact participate in the recent issues. It would seem he is first a victim ......and second a possible perpetrator, but you don't know that part. Apparently, the neighborhood has already convicted him which is so sad and unfortunate, however, that is out of your control. What is in your control is to get him help and take the rest one step at a time as you are. You have all the resources you need being a teacher, so you have an advantage to move thru that system somewhat easier. I feel such empathy for your grandson, he's still a child and for you and your husband, who are trying so hard to be there for your grandkids when the damage was done to the kids by their own parents. I can relate, having raised my granddaughter too, who had to deal with my daughter's inability to be able to successfully parent a young child. My heart goes out to you HMB. Take it one step at a time, you don't know the truth yet. Get him some help, have him tested, trauma absolutely impacts the growing brain.....perhaps EMDR can counteract that for him. I would agree that he has been traumatized, just on what you know about his Mom's phone. I'm so sorry. [/QUOTE]
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