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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 405403" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This isn't going to be popular either, but I not only don't think it's your problem, it's not your place to try to discipline her. You are not her mother or even stepmother. You are her father's girlfriend and no kid is going to respond well to that. You shouldn't expect it...my hub is a step and my kids were brutal to him, even the ones without problems, until he stepped back. I think that's what you need to do. </p><p></p><p>Sorry (phew!) <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I did need to get that out. This is his child and he will put her before you, if push comes to shove. She sounds dangerous. You may want to think very hard about a future with a man who has a very dangerous and disturbed daughter. You didn't give much background info on this child, but harsh discipline will not fix her. What she is threatening to do is beyond the norm. I don't know if YOU have any kids, but if you do, you are endangering them. I would not allow them to live in the same house as this child. It's not fair to them.</p><p></p><p>Maybe, if you give us more background, we can sort of brainstorm about what could be wrong with this child. However, the bottom line is...you aren't related to her. She does not or CAN not respect people who ARE related to her. She certainly is not going to respect YOU. And in my opinion you shouldn't be disciplining her. Your boyfriend picked you, she didn't. I had to learn this myself when I remarried...in time, my kids learned to love and respect my husband, but it took a very long time. Trying to force them to do it, only antagonized them. Good luck with your situation and think it over very carefully...is this the life you want for yourself?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 405403, member: 1550"] This isn't going to be popular either, but I not only don't think it's your problem, it's not your place to try to discipline her. You are not her mother or even stepmother. You are her father's girlfriend and no kid is going to respond well to that. You shouldn't expect it...my hub is a step and my kids were brutal to him, even the ones without problems, until he stepped back. I think that's what you need to do. Sorry (phew!) :) I did need to get that out. This is his child and he will put her before you, if push comes to shove. She sounds dangerous. You may want to think very hard about a future with a man who has a very dangerous and disturbed daughter. You didn't give much background info on this child, but harsh discipline will not fix her. What she is threatening to do is beyond the norm. I don't know if YOU have any kids, but if you do, you are endangering them. I would not allow them to live in the same house as this child. It's not fair to them. Maybe, if you give us more background, we can sort of brainstorm about what could be wrong with this child. However, the bottom line is...you aren't related to her. She does not or CAN not respect people who ARE related to her. She certainly is not going to respect YOU. And in my opinion you shouldn't be disciplining her. Your boyfriend picked you, she didn't. I had to learn this myself when I remarried...in time, my kids learned to love and respect my husband, but it took a very long time. Trying to force them to do it, only antagonized them. Good luck with your situation and think it over very carefully...is this the life you want for yourself? [/QUOTE]
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