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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 405408" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>I read your post and felt like the pot of petunias in the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: <em>OH NO, NOT AGAIN...</em></p><p> </p><p><strong>Your stepdaughter and my stepdaughter have many of the same things going on. </strong>Not all, I am sure - but many. We are working through Onyxx and her desire to stab someone <em>right now</em>. This is frightening to me, that there's another young lady out there with the same thoughts. Now, I will say this - many kids say stuff like this in the heat of anger, and don't really mean it. But add it in with the rest of her status offenses, and...</p><p> </p><p>If SO doesn't think it will work? Here's something to mention: "But, honey, she's living here with US now. WE can work with her, unlike before." Fact of the matter is - if you're not married - and you don't have a power of attorney - finding a therapist is great, but you won't be able to consent to treatment. Plus, if you do it behind his back, stepdaughter is going to tell him. Do NOT let her behavior drive a wedge between you - because what she may not realize is - <em>she needs you, too</em>.</p><p> </p><p>Living with a difficult child is something that not every adult can do. My husband stuck his head in the sand for so long... And now, he <em>knows</em> Onyxx needs help... But we've had the kids living with us for 4 years, and it's only been recently that he's stepped up. And let me tell you something - being resented ain't fun - but being physically attacked is much, much worse.</p><p> </p><p>If you can get your husband to read some of my recent posts about Onyxx, it might help. Or might not. Keep in mind that not all therapists are created equal, and for every great one, there are a LOT of useless ones... Or worse.</p><p> </p><p>Lastly - HUGS! You're going to need them. Come back, post often, keep us updated. We will tell you what we know, what we think - we don't sugarcoat around here. We're in it for real.</p><p> </p><p>...PS. Just read MWM's post, and she's right...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 405408, member: 6705"] I read your post and felt like the pot of petunias in the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy: [I]OH NO, NOT AGAIN...[/I] [B]Your stepdaughter and my stepdaughter have many of the same things going on. [/B]Not all, I am sure - but many. We are working through Onyxx and her desire to stab someone [I]right now[/I]. This is frightening to me, that there's another young lady out there with the same thoughts. Now, I will say this - many kids say stuff like this in the heat of anger, and don't really mean it. But add it in with the rest of her status offenses, and... If SO doesn't think it will work? Here's something to mention: "But, honey, she's living here with US now. WE can work with her, unlike before." Fact of the matter is - if you're not married - and you don't have a power of attorney - finding a therapist is great, but you won't be able to consent to treatment. Plus, if you do it behind his back, stepdaughter is going to tell him. Do NOT let her behavior drive a wedge between you - because what she may not realize is - [I]she needs you, too[/I]. Living with a difficult child is something that not every adult can do. My husband stuck his head in the sand for so long... And now, he [I]knows[/I] Onyxx needs help... But we've had the kids living with us for 4 years, and it's only been recently that he's stepped up. And let me tell you something - being resented ain't fun - but being physically attacked is much, much worse. If you can get your husband to read some of my recent posts about Onyxx, it might help. Or might not. Keep in mind that not all therapists are created equal, and for every great one, there are a LOT of useless ones... Or worse. Lastly - HUGS! You're going to need them. Come back, post often, keep us updated. We will tell you what we know, what we think - we don't sugarcoat around here. We're in it for real. ...PS. Just read MWM's post, and she's right... [/QUOTE]
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