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<blockquote data-quote="troubled" data-source="post: 405752"><p>I can only underline what the others before me have said because I was in a similar relationship with the difference being that I was the one with the difficult child who was out of control while the boyfriend came to visit on weekends but wanted to get married/move in/spend more time with me. The first time we broke up for a while because my boyfriend tried to step in and discipline difficult child the way he disciplined his own kids and it didn't work and I did not want him disciplining difficult child at all. We were constantly at each other then and he jumped on the "blame the mother" bandwagon when it came to difficult child's behavior. Finally it got so bad that I dreaded him coming over at all and one night when I had had enough of his complaining about me being tired and all, I told him to go and never return. It was becoming such a burden that I was happy for awhile when he left and I could focus on difficult child more. difficult child's can be a real relationship killer. They tend to suck the life right out of you, leaving very little left for anyone else. When you aren't paying any attention to them is when they seem to act up the most and as far as my difficult child, she is a bottomless pit of wanting and needing attention. It's never enough, even now. It sounds sad, but that's been my experience especially when they get to be teens and you can't find anyone to look after them so you can have some time to yourself. There is no respite for parents of older difficult children. *sigh*</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="troubled, post: 405752"] I can only underline what the others before me have said because I was in a similar relationship with the difference being that I was the one with the difficult child who was out of control while the boyfriend came to visit on weekends but wanted to get married/move in/spend more time with me. The first time we broke up for a while because my boyfriend tried to step in and discipline difficult child the way he disciplined his own kids and it didn't work and I did not want him disciplining difficult child at all. We were constantly at each other then and he jumped on the "blame the mother" bandwagon when it came to difficult child's behavior. Finally it got so bad that I dreaded him coming over at all and one night when I had had enough of his complaining about me being tired and all, I told him to go and never return. It was becoming such a burden that I was happy for awhile when he left and I could focus on difficult child more. difficult child's can be a real relationship killer. They tend to suck the life right out of you, leaving very little left for anyone else. When you aren't paying any attention to them is when they seem to act up the most and as far as my difficult child, she is a bottomless pit of wanting and needing attention. It's never enough, even now. It sounds sad, but that's been my experience especially when they get to be teens and you can't find anyone to look after them so you can have some time to yourself. There is no respite for parents of older difficult children. *sigh* [/QUOTE]
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