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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 313443" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>We are staying very close to her at this time. I had plans to go do some shopping but cannot leave her alone.</p><p></p><p>husband woke up one time and thought he saw/heard her stabbing a pillow with a knife. He wasn't sure (and is very groggy at night) and she told him that everything was fine, to go back to sleep. He then drifted out.</p><p></p><p>We have NEVER blamed my illness on the kids. Jess feels that my parents have told her that her problems are exaggerated and are the cause of all my problems. She feels they keep asking her if she has been "good" and helping me out a lot. </p><p></p><p>Of course she has, but she thinks it is never good enough for my Mom and Dad to accept. Scarily, it probably isn't good enough for them. They have such vastly different standards for her and the boys, and for my bro and I. </p><p></p><p>The things that she says my parents tell her, sadly, ring true to me. Too much like what I have been told in the past. I am sure that if I speak to my parents about it they will deny it and "wonder why she is picking on them" to my face. THEN they will go to her when we are not around and be quite vicious to her. been there done that. Too much like when my mom had her breakdown. It was due to my bro's drunken felonies but the blame came to me for not "telling her" that he was an alcoholic. Even though I did, many times.</p><p></p><p>Sadly, all I can do is help her work through this with-o confronting them. That will do MUCH more harm than good. She needs a lot more counseling before she does that. Right now she is terrified of what they will say to her if they know she told me. </p><p></p><p>I am working today to find places for her to interact with other kids. </p><p></p><p>She just woke up and does not remember stabbing the pillow. Or that is what she is saying to deal with the embarrassment of having her dad see her do something like that. He goes on and on about how stressed he is and this has the sad result of Jess wanting to protect him from anything that would upset him. Nothing we say or do can shake that. No therapist has ever been able to help either. We will keep trying though.</p><p></p><p>All ideas are truly appreciated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 313443, member: 1233"] We are staying very close to her at this time. I had plans to go do some shopping but cannot leave her alone. husband woke up one time and thought he saw/heard her stabbing a pillow with a knife. He wasn't sure (and is very groggy at night) and she told him that everything was fine, to go back to sleep. He then drifted out. We have NEVER blamed my illness on the kids. Jess feels that my parents have told her that her problems are exaggerated and are the cause of all my problems. She feels they keep asking her if she has been "good" and helping me out a lot. Of course she has, but she thinks it is never good enough for my Mom and Dad to accept. Scarily, it probably isn't good enough for them. They have such vastly different standards for her and the boys, and for my bro and I. The things that she says my parents tell her, sadly, ring true to me. Too much like what I have been told in the past. I am sure that if I speak to my parents about it they will deny it and "wonder why she is picking on them" to my face. THEN they will go to her when we are not around and be quite vicious to her. been there done that. Too much like when my mom had her breakdown. It was due to my bro's drunken felonies but the blame came to me for not "telling her" that he was an alcoholic. Even though I did, many times. Sadly, all I can do is help her work through this with-o confronting them. That will do MUCH more harm than good. She needs a lot more counseling before she does that. Right now she is terrified of what they will say to her if they know she told me. I am working today to find places for her to interact with other kids. She just woke up and does not remember stabbing the pillow. Or that is what she is saying to deal with the embarrassment of having her dad see her do something like that. He goes on and on about how stressed he is and this has the sad result of Jess wanting to protect him from anything that would upset him. Nothing we say or do can shake that. No therapist has ever been able to help either. We will keep trying though. All ideas are truly appreciated. [/QUOTE]
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