hi me again i'm so sorry for all the posting as of late. so much to consider. we ran into problems with-the place in oregon, they want a substantial down pyment along with-the flites which are quite expensive. it will be very hard to come up with-that money. i found another local place, spent an hr on the phone with-the director this morning. this is where i def need opinions and thoughts. gotta be honest been up all night with-her again and i am shot and really depleted right now. new place is 3 hours away. they will work with-difficult child to get her to eat. it is specifically for eating disorders, dietician there, tutor during day, other kids, in a rm with a kid who is 13 years old, art therapy, pyshciatrist everyday, therapist everyday, family counseling. no feeding tube. they want to work with-her to get her to eat. they also will address all her other issues and finda medication that works. clincher is i have to leave her there by herself. parents are not allowed there at all. that means i admit and i go. only visiting hours are allowed. or fly 7 hours away to the other place. i stay at ronald mcdonald house next door. they treat only the eating food phobia she has, they do use feeding tube thru nose, only medication is zyprexa and they wont' be addressing other issues at all. problem hopefully solved within 3 to 5 weeks. than her and i return back home. than begin our round at doctor's to solve other issues anxiety, non sleep, all that junk that you guys know about. i have to be honest our house is in crisis mode. things are a mess here due to her and have been for quite sometime now. we manage thru it, there are good days dont' get me wrong. she has great days she truly does. yet right now she isnt' in school, she is up all night long (problem due to mania and stupid remeron that just isn't right for her) sleeping all day, no eating, alot of mixed thoughts in her head. what do you guys think. be straight, be blunt if need be. i wont' be offended just tell me your gut thoughts. husband and i are confused. i usually prevail yet i'm way too shot at this point. i don't know if ican handle dropping her somewhere like that. i can get thru it somehow if it meant she'd be better though. place is getting back to me today to let me know if they'd def take her. if they do they can do an admit by monday. thanks.