My vote would have to be for the local place.
I understand your concerns about not being there, but, I know in my own situation with Wee, there are things I do to survive life with Wee that aren't necessarily helpful to Wee (not that they are necessarily harmful, either, they are coping mechanisms on my part - like driving him around in my diesel truck when he can't sleep - it doesn't teach him to deal with his situation on his own, but we have to do it, because I can't function on no sleep anymore and I have to keep my job). If I were to follow Wee into a place that was trying to establish a "normal" routine for him, I feel I would probably be a detriment instead of a help, because I am so conditioned to doing what we have to do to exist and survive in our home instead of what should happen in a "normal" home setting. There would be a learning curve for me, too.
I don't feel like I'm explaining this very well....sorry....but maybe you get the gist?
