Jena--
I have to vote for the local place - first and foremost, because they recognise that your daughter is MORE than just an eating disorder. in my opinion, you cannot treat just one problem and send her on her way...because all the other issues that are contributing to the non-eating will still be there.
This would be my vote regardless of the distance.
As to visiting/non-visiting...neither place is going to permit you to hang out by your daughter's side 24/7. I think you will have to decide to trust their program...
((((hugs)))) I know this is hard...
Stay strong!
