I get that, SW, but it's my understanding that she isn't quite to that point yet. She might be at a point where she has lost her appetite and it will take therapeutic interventions to help her get back on track, but the appetite can come back- I know mine did and I was under 85 pounds. While remoaval of stressors made my appetite come back, dealing the the phobia will probably be the long term answer for Jen's daughter. I feel certain that any reputable place for eating disorders will not let her deteriorate too far if therapeutic methods aren't working before they put a feeding tube in her- but if they still think less intrusive methods can work, in my humble opinion, I would try them first if it was my child. That doesn't mean I disagree with your decision for your daughter- there might have been different specifics such as a younger age, more deterioration of health, less chance of therapeutic methods alone working, etc.
I am speculating, too, that this place is telling Jen the best they can over the phone but of course, they will have to evaluation her daughter and form a specific plan once she gets there. If she shows up and they think she needs a tube first, my gut tells me they would tell Jen that.
