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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 331001" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I just went back and read through some of your earliest posts on your son. I also read your description of family history on both sides. As I said above, we cannot diagnose here. I also note that the hospital said that autism has been ruled out.</p><p></p><p>I don't believe it is correct to rule out autism so readily, in such a young child. I suspect what may have ruled it out in his case is the good eye contact plus the lack of other obvious signs such as toe walking, hand flapping etc. But these signs are also absent in my younger son. He was doing the equivalent of hand-flapping but it was so subtle we didn't see it until afterwards - he was always fascinated with the flicker of light through the leaves on the trees. It calmed him down.</p><p></p><p>I noted you mentioned language delay and speech problems. It's good that he's getting speech therapy - very valuable. That was something we had a lot of trouble getting access to. Again, this fits. But whatever the underlying cause, if your son is not as capable as other kids of expressing his distress verbally, he WILL lash out physically. It's all they have left.</p><p></p><p>Going through the list of problem in your family, up to and including the suicidal tendencies and the anxiety - it all fits with autism also. I'm not saying that is what the problem is, only that it is not inconsistent with it. </p><p></p><p>So even if doctors rule it out, keep an open mind. it still could be. And it can make a useful working hypothesis (ie let's carry on as if it is, until we have something more appropriate to replace it) because you're already doing the right things here (the speech therapy; the behaviour plan; the IEP).</p><p></p><p>You mentioned using Plan B (Explosive Child) with him - in what way are you using it? How many things are you working on with him? And if his language problems are getting in the ay of good communication, how well is he understanding you when you try to set things up in advance? And if he has impulse control problems, are you still handling those in the same way as task-changing problems?</p><p></p><p>If it's not working, find another way. It doesn't mean that what you're doing is bad, just that it's nor right for him, now. Sometimes the best child-rearing methods in the world can backfire with some kids at some times.</p><p></p><p>We find what works and discard what doesn't. It's OK.</p><p></p><p>Have confidence in yourself as a parent. </p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 331001, member: 1991"] I just went back and read through some of your earliest posts on your son. I also read your description of family history on both sides. As I said above, we cannot diagnose here. I also note that the hospital said that autism has been ruled out. I don't believe it is correct to rule out autism so readily, in such a young child. I suspect what may have ruled it out in his case is the good eye contact plus the lack of other obvious signs such as toe walking, hand flapping etc. But these signs are also absent in my younger son. He was doing the equivalent of hand-flapping but it was so subtle we didn't see it until afterwards - he was always fascinated with the flicker of light through the leaves on the trees. It calmed him down. I noted you mentioned language delay and speech problems. It's good that he's getting speech therapy - very valuable. That was something we had a lot of trouble getting access to. Again, this fits. But whatever the underlying cause, if your son is not as capable as other kids of expressing his distress verbally, he WILL lash out physically. It's all they have left. Going through the list of problem in your family, up to and including the suicidal tendencies and the anxiety - it all fits with autism also. I'm not saying that is what the problem is, only that it is not inconsistent with it. So even if doctors rule it out, keep an open mind. it still could be. And it can make a useful working hypothesis (ie let's carry on as if it is, until we have something more appropriate to replace it) because you're already doing the right things here (the speech therapy; the behaviour plan; the IEP). You mentioned using Plan B (Explosive Child) with him - in what way are you using it? How many things are you working on with him? And if his language problems are getting in the ay of good communication, how well is he understanding you when you try to set things up in advance? And if he has impulse control problems, are you still handling those in the same way as task-changing problems? If it's not working, find another way. It doesn't mean that what you're doing is bad, just that it's nor right for him, now. Sometimes the best child-rearing methods in the world can backfire with some kids at some times. We find what works and discard what doesn't. It's OK. Have confidence in yourself as a parent. Marg [/QUOTE]
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