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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 724738" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>With my daughter, we stopped allowing her to drive because we knew she obviously drove high. We gave her no allowance at all. We paid for no toys. She did get a job, which was a good thing. When we knew for a fact that her drug use had escalated, we made her leave. In our house or not, you can't live with us if you do meth and cocaine, even if you don't do it under our roof. She still came home high. My younger kids had to see her high. Um, no.</p><p></p><p>I feel as long as they are financially dependent on us and living for free under our roof, it is our house/our rules. I don't care how old they are. They can be 43. Our house.</p><p></p><p>An example of this is NOBODY can smoke in our house. We don't choose to pollute our lungs. Therefore nobody who has to smoke can be in our home, from ages 12 to 99. Their relationship to us doesn't matter. Nobody can smoke in our castle. Your house rules should stand. It doesn't help him grow up to let him live in your house for free when he is living a lifestyle you don't approve of. Pot isn't harmless by the way.</p><p></p><p>Your house/ your rules.</p><p>He can choose to either obey your rulesor leave. It is his choice. You are not throwing him out. It's his choice.</p><p></p><p>Go to Al Anon and/or a private therapist for help for your anxiety. You can not know what Son is doing all the time. Dont read his social media AT ALL. Half of what posts about are probably just to impress his seedier "friends." Go silent on his social media.</p><p></p><p> You getting sick over his maybes do not help either of you even one iota. Not at all. Your getting sick helps neither of you either. Don't give him that power...set boundaries for YOU.</p><p></p><p>Jmo and love and prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 724738, member: 1550"] With my daughter, we stopped allowing her to drive because we knew she obviously drove high. We gave her no allowance at all. We paid for no toys. She did get a job, which was a good thing. When we knew for a fact that her drug use had escalated, we made her leave. In our house or not, you can't live with us if you do meth and cocaine, even if you don't do it under our roof. She still came home high. My younger kids had to see her high. Um, no. I feel as long as they are financially dependent on us and living for free under our roof, it is our house/our rules. I don't care how old they are. They can be 43. Our house. An example of this is NOBODY can smoke in our house. We don't choose to pollute our lungs. Therefore nobody who has to smoke can be in our home, from ages 12 to 99. Their relationship to us doesn't matter. Nobody can smoke in our castle. Your house rules should stand. It doesn't help him grow up to let him live in your house for free when he is living a lifestyle you don't approve of. Pot isn't harmless by the way. Your house/ your rules. He can choose to either obey your rulesor leave. It is his choice. You are not throwing him out. It's his choice. Go to Al Anon and/or a private therapist for help for your anxiety. You can not know what Son is doing all the time. Dont read his social media AT ALL. Half of what posts about are probably just to impress his seedier "friends." Go silent on his social media. You getting sick over his maybes do not help either of you even one iota. Not at all. Your getting sick helps neither of you either. Don't give him that power...set boundaries for YOU. Jmo and love and prayers. [/QUOTE]
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