We've always told the truth with-our kids. You could couch it a bit,not necessarily use the word "die," but go ahead and say "Cancer," and suggest they make "I love you" cards instead of get well cards. When we tell our kids these things, we have to caution them not to say anything in front of the person. Even many difficult child's, at a very early age, know that. Both our kids get upset with-us and roll their eyes but it's better to be safe than sorry!
Of course, then you run the risk that if someone close to you gets cancer that is easily treatable, they'll freak out, but you can cross that bridge when you come to it.
She sounds like a neat lady! I am so sorry! :frown:
