During the past year and a half, husband's grandmother(V) has been living with husband's parents. As always, we either go to his parents for dinner on Sundays or they come here. During this past year and a half, my kids have become quite fond of their great-grandmother. About a month and a half ago, she had a mini-stroke and went to the hospital. They did all kinds of tests on her and found lesions on her brain, which had metasticised from somewhere else. Subsequently, they found breast cancer, liver cancer and lung cancer. (the last time she'd seen a doctor before my in-laws took her to their house was when she gave birth to her 56 year old son) She has been in a local nursing home for rehab. I've taken the kids to see her a few times and husband has taken them too. Lately, she's become extremely lethargic and can barely keep her eyes open. They will most likely be transferring her to hospice in the next week or so. Apparently there are times when she is quite lucid, but not when we've gone. V has not openly discussed her death with any of her children. She has not discussed dying with anyone, though she is aware of it, as her doctors have told her. She's recently signed all the paperwork, such as living will, power of attorney and a new will. I asked husband's mom if she's talked to her about dying and she won't bring it up, because she thinks her mother doesn't want to talk about it. (Family dynamics! Sheesh!) The thing is, my kids are making her "get better soon" stuff. Lots of cards and presents and stuff. It's really sweet that they are doing all of this. At some point, very soon, I need to tell Missy that V is not going to get better and she's dying. Perhaps I underestimate my daughter, but it brings great strife to me when I think about explaining this to her. I don't want to tell her too soon, because I don't want her to bring it up to V when we visit, but I don't want to wait too long, because I worry that she'll be upset that I didn't tell her. I don't even want to tell my son. I know if I tell him, he will just worry about it all the time and he will cry about it a lot. I don't really think he'll understand all of it, but he will be quite upset. I wasn't planning on telling him at all, but as I'm typing this, I'm thinking that I should prepare him at some point too, because he won't understand why we can't see her anymore. Waht are your thoughts? How to tell them? 7 year old terms and 4 year old terms?