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<blockquote data-quote="Wish" data-source="post: 734626" data-attributes="member: 23140"><p>I am just going to assume for the moment that there was no touching just so I can go ahead and answer because I might not have anytime later.</p><p></p><p>First I want to say that my heart is with the mother of your grandson's friend. I am sure she is very disturbed (I know I would be) about what happened to her son and t<strong><em>hat is a very understandable feeling. </em></strong> Very good on him for telling an adult what happened. I am so sorry they had to go through something like that and with her being a child psychologist, she just might try and report it, so be aware of that.</p><p> </p><p>But, as far as your grandson goes, I always say, innocent until proven guilty. So you really need to find out the truth is here. Give your grandson a chance at least by trying to discover the truth because that is one big massive accusation. Kids finding porn on the computer and showing friends isn't probably the most uncommon thing in the world, especially in this day in age with all the technology, so let's try not to hold that past against him in this scenario so hard just yet.</p><p></p><p>If it is discovered that your grandson did infact say what he was accused of saying, then my first question would be....is he gay? And if so, was this his way of experimenting? Would this have been just as egregious if this were a boy and a girl instead of a boy and a boy? Yes, they are pretty young, but still, they are at that age where kids do start having romantic and sexual feelings and kids their age (not all, but certainly some) do act upon these feelings with each other, so maybe that's what your grandson was trying to do and didn't take into consideration that his friend may not have been gay? Maybe it didn't even occur to him to ask if he was gay or not?</p><p></p><p>So I don't know, but I would do more investigating before you label your grandson as a predator and then when you found out all that you could, then go and seek help from there.</p><p></p><p> I can feel how traumatizing this is for you all. Sending big hugs your way, really and truly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Wish, post: 734626, member: 23140"] I am just going to assume for the moment that there was no touching just so I can go ahead and answer because I might not have anytime later. First I want to say that my heart is with the mother of your grandson's friend. I am sure she is very disturbed (I know I would be) about what happened to her son and t[B][I]hat is a very understandable feeling. [/I][/B] Very good on him for telling an adult what happened. I am so sorry they had to go through something like that and with her being a child psychologist, she just might try and report it, so be aware of that. But, as far as your grandson goes, I always say, innocent until proven guilty. So you really need to find out the truth is here. Give your grandson a chance at least by trying to discover the truth because that is one big massive accusation. Kids finding porn on the computer and showing friends isn't probably the most uncommon thing in the world, especially in this day in age with all the technology, so let's try not to hold that past against him in this scenario so hard just yet. If it is discovered that your grandson did infact say what he was accused of saying, then my first question would be....is he gay? And if so, was this his way of experimenting? Would this have been just as egregious if this were a boy and a girl instead of a boy and a boy? Yes, they are pretty young, but still, they are at that age where kids do start having romantic and sexual feelings and kids their age (not all, but certainly some) do act upon these feelings with each other, so maybe that's what your grandson was trying to do and didn't take into consideration that his friend may not have been gay? Maybe it didn't even occur to him to ask if he was gay or not? So I don't know, but I would do more investigating before you label your grandson as a predator and then when you found out all that you could, then go and seek help from there. I can feel how traumatizing this is for you all. Sending big hugs your way, really and truly. [/QUOTE]
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