live life to the fullest; this is mostly in regard to her allergies/asthma. She seems to not want to try things because... (insert excuse). I've talked to her about her asthma and told her we were probably in for a weird few months until it was well controlled but that the goal was to have her be able to do everything any other girl her age could do. I also tell her that the doctor has cleared her for all normal activities with adequate precaution on cold days and when she's sick. Duckie. I believe, is going to be living with asthma and allergies her entire life and so needs to not let them control her. I see this as a parallel issue to many of the kids here because they are living with lifelong conditions. So, how I do get her not to make herself a victim of her own body?