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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 490427" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>ARB, I'm sorry you are going through the things you are with your girl. I know how you feel. I too have a 17 year old who has put us through pure hell. She also forged a check. We found out about it the morning before she was to appear before a judge for pushing us as she tried to leave home. She has been in 2 residential treatments, therapy since age 13 ,when problems began. She has had sooo many diagnosis it's unbelievable-including ADHD, mood disorder, emerging borderline personality disorder, blah, blah.</p><p></p><p>We did press charges and the bank gave us back our money. We did accept the plea down to a less serious charge which was a good thing. Only felonies come up on a background check for juveniles in this state. She would not have been able to get the job she now has with a felony. We were able to get the state to put her in the second Residential Treatment Center (RTC) when we went before a judge. We had a good JJS worker. In this state they can treat juveniles until age 21. You might want to ask about this. We spent unbelievable money on the first Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for 18 months and had no money to help her again. Some kids come out of these places and do well. I think our's learned even worse behaviors, but is now realizing that she has good coping skills she has been taught and she needs to use these rather than continue on the path to self-destruction. Ours was using marijuana-to our knowledge (regular drug testing) nothing else. She used pretty regularly and this does cost money. Stealing is a sign of drug use.</p><p></p><p>Nothing we have done has really helped-she got worse with both residential treatments. She is just now (4 months out of last treatment center) started to level out. She still is not totally ok but we do know that she has gotten better being home. Some of the therapy is finially helping. Had we not done the things we have done, I believe she would be dead-she did not care about her own life and put herself in all kinds of dangerous situations. Maybe going to see a judge is the only way to get help? It's a difficult decision but she is a minor and she probably wont go for an adult charge.</p><p></p><p>We have told our daughter that once she hits 18 she will have to move out if she is not working or in school, and following all the rules. We remind her whenever we have an issue so it is crystal clear. We miss our sweet girl too. I have hope that she will return. We see improvement and glimmers of the once darling girl we new. Hang onto hope. Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 490427, member: 11001"] ARB, I'm sorry you are going through the things you are with your girl. I know how you feel. I too have a 17 year old who has put us through pure hell. She also forged a check. We found out about it the morning before she was to appear before a judge for pushing us as she tried to leave home. She has been in 2 residential treatments, therapy since age 13 ,when problems began. She has had sooo many diagnosis it's unbelievable-including ADHD, mood disorder, emerging borderline personality disorder, blah, blah. We did press charges and the bank gave us back our money. We did accept the plea down to a less serious charge which was a good thing. Only felonies come up on a background check for juveniles in this state. She would not have been able to get the job she now has with a felony. We were able to get the state to put her in the second Residential Treatment Center (RTC) when we went before a judge. We had a good JJS worker. In this state they can treat juveniles until age 21. You might want to ask about this. We spent unbelievable money on the first Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for 18 months and had no money to help her again. Some kids come out of these places and do well. I think our's learned even worse behaviors, but is now realizing that she has good coping skills she has been taught and she needs to use these rather than continue on the path to self-destruction. Ours was using marijuana-to our knowledge (regular drug testing) nothing else. She used pretty regularly and this does cost money. Stealing is a sign of drug use. Nothing we have done has really helped-she got worse with both residential treatments. She is just now (4 months out of last treatment center) started to level out. She still is not totally ok but we do know that she has gotten better being home. Some of the therapy is finially helping. Had we not done the things we have done, I believe she would be dead-she did not care about her own life and put herself in all kinds of dangerous situations. Maybe going to see a judge is the only way to get help? It's a difficult decision but she is a minor and she probably wont go for an adult charge. We have told our daughter that once she hits 18 she will have to move out if she is not working or in school, and following all the rules. We remind her whenever we have an issue so it is crystal clear. We miss our sweet girl too. I have hope that she will return. We see improvement and glimmers of the once darling girl we new. Hang onto hope. Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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