tryingtobestrong
Active Member
Hello again... I will try to make this short but you know how it goes. My son was in recovery for almost 2 months at the beginning of this year then the pandemic hit and he had to start working from home.... Not good.. Like he said "Its an alcoholics dream". So he started back into drinking and I never really heard much that things were not good. He had the issue with the stomach problems from smoking too much weed and I asked the girlfriend about the drinking and she didn't mention it. Fast forward... her mom came this week for a visit (seems maybe planned) He was very nervous to meet her. Already didn't like her due to what she did to his girlfriend and ruined her credit. So, he was very vocal to me and I told him he needed to remember that people change and forgiveness is huge. Well, dinner didn't go as intended... Pretty sure he was drinking prior to it. As before when he was into the heavy booze he couldn't eat and would just get sick. So long story short, she left him. Her and her mom moved her out today... He called and explained what happened. Told me he was drinking on and off and that she told him that she missed the man he once was before alcohol took over... He told me that he was afraid and that if he hits rock bottom again he won't be getting back out. He did have someone from his work reach out to him and asked him to come visit for a week to help get his mind off which was nice.
He did reach out to his sponsor and called the place he had rehab at to see about getting back into meetings there so that all is good.
His attitude did seem better over all but he still was saying how he hates the person he becomes and he hates how the controls him.
He will now be all alone again 1700 miles away. It is killing me.
He does plan on going to see his friend from work (they are on the same team) but in a different state. I just don't know how he will be going forward. He doesn't have many friends that he hangs with. So sad.
He sent me a text "Do you and dad promise to always be there for me even if it gets really bad?" Like what is that? I replied that we will always be here for him but can't enable him. I didn't know what else to say. I did say he can't cave when things get uncomfortable like he always does in recovery.
Any advice on what you all would do? I want to tell him that we have our own bills to pay. We are not certain of our jobs either at this time.
He needs to get on his own insurance come Nov. so that is a huge deal with getting help for addictions and having a huge deductible.
So many things. Just a rotten start to the weekend.
He did reach out to his sponsor and called the place he had rehab at to see about getting back into meetings there so that all is good.
His attitude did seem better over all but he still was saying how he hates the person he becomes and he hates how the controls him.
He will now be all alone again 1700 miles away. It is killing me.
He does plan on going to see his friend from work (they are on the same team) but in a different state. I just don't know how he will be going forward. He doesn't have many friends that he hangs with. So sad.
He sent me a text "Do you and dad promise to always be there for me even if it gets really bad?" Like what is that? I replied that we will always be here for him but can't enable him. I didn't know what else to say. I did say he can't cave when things get uncomfortable like he always does in recovery.
Any advice on what you all would do? I want to tell him that we have our own bills to pay. We are not certain of our jobs either at this time.
He needs to get on his own insurance come Nov. so that is a huge deal with getting help for addictions and having a huge deductible.
So many things. Just a rotten start to the weekend.