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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 518648" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I'm with the others. You have to shadow him and make sure he cleans up and only give him what he wants (in our case, video games) when he has cleaned up.</p><p>We are still going through this, although my son is a better aim now. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p>Some of it has to do with germs, some with-being lazy, some with-not thinking. He just doesn't "see" it.</p><p>In regard to the girls' items, we have the same issue.</p><p>It comes and goes, depending upon his stress level or whatever is going on in his mind and his life. We have had long talks with-the therapist, to no avail. I went out and bought things, but difficult child didn't want those. He wanted only those that belonged to certain people. So it's got to have a sexual, warm, caring connection. And since our difficult child is Aspie and not good about social relationships, quite frankly, even though it spooks us a bit, I'd rather have him do this than the real thing. Sigh. </p><p>We have tried to explain to him that we don't care what he wears, but if does it at camp or at school, he will probably be beaten up. Seriously.</p><p>We have also explained that it is stealing, plain and simple.</p><p>So we are guessing that he's just going to have to learn the hard way, the way he always learns ...</p><p>Wish I could be of more help.</p><p></p><p>I don't have any advice about your daughter. Just support.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 518648, member: 3419"] I'm with the others. You have to shadow him and make sure he cleans up and only give him what he wants (in our case, video games) when he has cleaned up. We are still going through this, although my son is a better aim now. ;) Some of it has to do with germs, some with-being lazy, some with-not thinking. He just doesn't "see" it. In regard to the girls' items, we have the same issue. It comes and goes, depending upon his stress level or whatever is going on in his mind and his life. We have had long talks with-the therapist, to no avail. I went out and bought things, but difficult child didn't want those. He wanted only those that belonged to certain people. So it's got to have a sexual, warm, caring connection. And since our difficult child is Aspie and not good about social relationships, quite frankly, even though it spooks us a bit, I'd rather have him do this than the real thing. Sigh. We have tried to explain to him that we don't care what he wears, but if does it at camp or at school, he will probably be beaten up. Seriously. We have also explained that it is stealing, plain and simple. So we are guessing that he's just going to have to learn the hard way, the way he always learns ... Wish I could be of more help. I don't have any advice about your daughter. Just support. [/QUOTE]
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