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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 519061" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I have been thinking on the underwear thing. What sensory issues does he have? My kids ALL have significant sensory issues, but for the most part they are not a big deal to me because I have a lot of my own. They were a huge deal to husband because he didn't really have any, but I mellowed that out of him with mine, and by showing him how providing the sensory input they were seeking, or reducing what they coudn't handle, made life really good around here. The neuropsychologist we spoke to about Jess said taht many neuropsychs are now thinking that adhd is at the light end of the autism spectrum, that it is actually an autism spectrum disorder but they don't tell many parents that because they freak out so hard. Sensory integration disorder is also on that spectrum, or so he claimed. </p><p></p><p>Does he choose a specific texture or a few specific textures, like always going for the silky ones or the lacy ones? If so, why not get some fabric and make something for him with that texture so that he doesn't have to take their bras? I know one young man who kept stealing his mom and sister's underwear because it was the silky or nylon kind and guys underwear is mostly cotton or if it is silky fabric it is boxers and they are very loose. His mom finally got some not too feminine looking silky underwear that fit him and he wore it at night at home and stopped taking other people's underwear. He just could not stand the feel of cotton underwear once he figured out that other stuff was available even if it was for girls. She also made several pillow cases out of that type of material so that he didn't have to always have his hands in his pants to feel the texture when he was at home. his dad was rather disturbed because he slept with ihs hand in his pants all the time. At one point she even put pockets made out of that material in some of his pants so that he could have that texture at school with-o getting teased. By late high school they had figured out that there are some lines of men's underwear at some stores that are silk or at least not cotton. he had to pay the difference in price, but those really helped the issue.</p><p></p><p>I wonder if a solution like that might help, esp if he is not using them for fantasizing? If it is the silky texture he likes, you can easily add a bit of it to anythng with a bit of seam binding. It is even carried at walmart and it has a silky texture that a lot of women's things are made out of and it comes in lots of colors. Or maybe searching ebay and closeout specials for silk shirts might help? Jess had only one real sensory thing and that was silky textured fabric. she couldn't sleep with-o a blanket with that texture at least on the edges. I used to have several silk sleep shirts and other silk shirts and finally just gave up buying them because she kept appropriating them even when they were miles too big for her. </p><p> </p><p>It is just a thought. the other thought is that if he wants them then he needs to have his own and not take theirs. or he should pay to replace any he takes, esp if his sisters are upset by his stealing them and can't stand to wear them if they know he has had them. Given the ages, he is plenty old enough to work at least around the house to earn money to buy them, even if he can't actually go into the store to get them and needs you to do that because he is embarrassed.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 519061, member: 1233"] I have been thinking on the underwear thing. What sensory issues does he have? My kids ALL have significant sensory issues, but for the most part they are not a big deal to me because I have a lot of my own. They were a huge deal to husband because he didn't really have any, but I mellowed that out of him with mine, and by showing him how providing the sensory input they were seeking, or reducing what they coudn't handle, made life really good around here. The neuropsychologist we spoke to about Jess said taht many neuropsychs are now thinking that adhd is at the light end of the autism spectrum, that it is actually an autism spectrum disorder but they don't tell many parents that because they freak out so hard. Sensory integration disorder is also on that spectrum, or so he claimed. Does he choose a specific texture or a few specific textures, like always going for the silky ones or the lacy ones? If so, why not get some fabric and make something for him with that texture so that he doesn't have to take their bras? I know one young man who kept stealing his mom and sister's underwear because it was the silky or nylon kind and guys underwear is mostly cotton or if it is silky fabric it is boxers and they are very loose. His mom finally got some not too feminine looking silky underwear that fit him and he wore it at night at home and stopped taking other people's underwear. He just could not stand the feel of cotton underwear once he figured out that other stuff was available even if it was for girls. She also made several pillow cases out of that type of material so that he didn't have to always have his hands in his pants to feel the texture when he was at home. his dad was rather disturbed because he slept with ihs hand in his pants all the time. At one point she even put pockets made out of that material in some of his pants so that he could have that texture at school with-o getting teased. By late high school they had figured out that there are some lines of men's underwear at some stores that are silk or at least not cotton. he had to pay the difference in price, but those really helped the issue. I wonder if a solution like that might help, esp if he is not using them for fantasizing? If it is the silky texture he likes, you can easily add a bit of it to anythng with a bit of seam binding. It is even carried at walmart and it has a silky texture that a lot of women's things are made out of and it comes in lots of colors. Or maybe searching ebay and closeout specials for silk shirts might help? Jess had only one real sensory thing and that was silky textured fabric. she couldn't sleep with-o a blanket with that texture at least on the edges. I used to have several silk sleep shirts and other silk shirts and finally just gave up buying them because she kept appropriating them even when they were miles too big for her. It is just a thought. the other thought is that if he wants them then he needs to have his own and not take theirs. or he should pay to replace any he takes, esp if his sisters are upset by his stealing them and can't stand to wear them if they know he has had them. Given the ages, he is plenty old enough to work at least around the house to earn money to buy them, even if he can't actually go into the store to get them and needs you to do that because he is embarrassed. [/QUOTE]
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