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<blockquote data-quote="PatriotsGirl" data-source="post: 586571" data-attributes="member: 15796"><p>difficult child texted me this morning asking if I would contact the program director at old sober house. I said I would, but that she will want to hear from difficult child. difficult child did try calling her twice on Friday but I don't know if she left a voicemail. </p><p></p><p>She tells me she has had the worst night's sleep and needs a shower. She then asked me if there was any way that I would pay for her to stay in a motel room for two nights until she saw her probation officer in two days. I refuse. I have paid for many motels and I am tired of doing that. It is a waste of money and nothing changes. I told her I would pay her admission into treatment, but that I was not blowing through thousands like I did before to only have her walk away from it all. She will have to actually look for and get a job to support herself. </p><p></p><p>She tells me, "Mommy, I intend on staying there. I can't keep worrying about this anymore. I need to focus on me and the baby. I can't be selfish anymore. I need somwhere to go for the next two days. The place I am staying at doesn't even have water." </p><p></p><p>So I ask her if she can call her Probation Officer to get recommendations, because I am concerned old Program Director won't let her back after the whole gang members were after her thing. I also give her the number to call St. Jude's Recovery - I told her to tell them she is pregnant and needs help. </p><p></p><p>So her text back is "F this, F everything, I am going to throw myself in front of a train, I want to die. I have lost everything in a week. I just want my boyfriend back. I hate having to cut to numb the pain and all I have is myself to blame."</p><p></p><p>This is very clearly manipulation at its best, right? She expected me to come rescue her and pay for her to have a place to stay and got angry when I was not about to do it. I told her that she was obviously not serious about getting help, that she was clearly trying to manipulate me into rescuing her and doing everything FOR her. I told her if she is serious about getting help, SHE needs to do the work this time. NOT ME. </p><p></p><p>Am I wrong here?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PatriotsGirl, post: 586571, member: 15796"] difficult child texted me this morning asking if I would contact the program director at old sober house. I said I would, but that she will want to hear from difficult child. difficult child did try calling her twice on Friday but I don't know if she left a voicemail. She tells me she has had the worst night's sleep and needs a shower. She then asked me if there was any way that I would pay for her to stay in a motel room for two nights until she saw her probation officer in two days. I refuse. I have paid for many motels and I am tired of doing that. It is a waste of money and nothing changes. I told her I would pay her admission into treatment, but that I was not blowing through thousands like I did before to only have her walk away from it all. She will have to actually look for and get a job to support herself. She tells me, "Mommy, I intend on staying there. I can't keep worrying about this anymore. I need to focus on me and the baby. I can't be selfish anymore. I need somwhere to go for the next two days. The place I am staying at doesn't even have water." So I ask her if she can call her Probation Officer to get recommendations, because I am concerned old Program Director won't let her back after the whole gang members were after her thing. I also give her the number to call St. Jude's Recovery - I told her to tell them she is pregnant and needs help. So her text back is "F this, F everything, I am going to throw myself in front of a train, I want to die. I have lost everything in a week. I just want my boyfriend back. I hate having to cut to numb the pain and all I have is myself to blame." This is very clearly manipulation at its best, right? She expected me to come rescue her and pay for her to have a place to stay and got angry when I was not about to do it. I told her that she was obviously not serious about getting help, that she was clearly trying to manipulate me into rescuing her and doing everything FOR her. I told her if she is serious about getting help, SHE needs to do the work this time. NOT ME. Am I wrong here? [/QUOTE]
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