Wow. Sounds like Kay. With no education and resume, all jobs are beneath her. She won't demean herself by working at fast food (although her husband does). But she is better than that. I don't get it. She had a chance to work at our business for a good wage and lots of latitude and she caused scenes that put our business at risk.
I agree with the others not to pay her for volunteering. Maybe if she works for a month, take her out for dinner and a movie in a real movie theatre. Something fun each month. I would not give her cash. And I would make her get financial help from Disability's services to go to any sort of school. I actually think classes could help her stay busy, but I would not pay a ton for them. She probably qualifies for special programs that may waive fees.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
God bless.
