Quick background...We left no stone unturned getting our daughter medical and educational help as a young person. Doctors, therapists, private schools and tutors.
Our daughter has been crazy difficult for decades. Recent weeks are more of the same.
I recently posted that she is on very thin ice at the condo where she lives. I think it’s possible that they haven’t taken action to get rid of her because of an incredibly complicated situation in which the man downstairs from her who is also mentally ill , has been harassing her. The HOA recognizes this and it gives them “pause.” But she has also broken rules and has been unpleasant even to people trying to help her.
She hasn’t been able to hold down any job of any kind.She does (did) seem to try to look for jobs. Not as much recently. Always seem to end badly and quickly.
She is on disability, but is allowed by law to work very minimally. It’s very hard to find part time jobs, but the ones she has found she has gotten fired within a week. One time I believe it was the first day. She is unorganized, moody, grouchy, undependable, inappropriate and one time was violent.
She rarely, if ever, acknowledges her part in getting fired.
She wants us to pay for an expensive educational program for her to be an assistant of some kind. For privacy sake...I’m not saying exactly what. This job field would require a car and people skills. All sorts of skills she doesn’t have. And she doesn’t drive. We won’t pay for it. I doubt she could finish the course anyway.
She applied to do some volunteer work. I’ve been so excited. She once had a great chance for a volunteer job only a few blocks from her home but decided against it mostly because she would have to work with a lot of high school students and she didn’t like this. I guess it was beneath her.
So, she recently applied elsewhere a little further away. A big positive. She asked to do two specifics types of things there that she doesn’t have much experience in. This was 10-15 days ago.
I told her calmly if she doesn’t hear from them in a few days to call. And if those two jobs are filled to apply for two different ones. And that it’s honorable to work even as a volunteer. And that she will learn new skills. And it would be great for her.
As a side note...she often seems bored.
She started getting hot under the collar. I said I would give her $4 an hour for any volunteer job she does as an incentive and a gift...although I added that we would have to work out the details.
She then screamed at me that this was less than min wage. I said it was just a small token as a volunteer job is just that...volunteer...but it would allow her some spending money. And it would be a good thing for her and the community.
She then started screaming at me more. I calmly told her I would have to go because I don’t let people scream at me and hung up.
She texted me this huge nasty diatribe (I only read the first sentence or two) that we are terrible people because we should pay for any schooling she wants.
Any thoughts? I’m a little down in the dumps and I’m very tired of the futility of it all. Ugh.
Our daughter has been crazy difficult for decades. Recent weeks are more of the same.
I recently posted that she is on very thin ice at the condo where she lives. I think it’s possible that they haven’t taken action to get rid of her because of an incredibly complicated situation in which the man downstairs from her who is also mentally ill , has been harassing her. The HOA recognizes this and it gives them “pause.” But she has also broken rules and has been unpleasant even to people trying to help her.
She hasn’t been able to hold down any job of any kind.She does (did) seem to try to look for jobs. Not as much recently. Always seem to end badly and quickly.
She is on disability, but is allowed by law to work very minimally. It’s very hard to find part time jobs, but the ones she has found she has gotten fired within a week. One time I believe it was the first day. She is unorganized, moody, grouchy, undependable, inappropriate and one time was violent.
She rarely, if ever, acknowledges her part in getting fired.
She wants us to pay for an expensive educational program for her to be an assistant of some kind. For privacy sake...I’m not saying exactly what. This job field would require a car and people skills. All sorts of skills she doesn’t have. And she doesn’t drive. We won’t pay for it. I doubt she could finish the course anyway.
She applied to do some volunteer work. I’ve been so excited. She once had a great chance for a volunteer job only a few blocks from her home but decided against it mostly because she would have to work with a lot of high school students and she didn’t like this. I guess it was beneath her.
So, she recently applied elsewhere a little further away. A big positive. She asked to do two specifics types of things there that she doesn’t have much experience in. This was 10-15 days ago.
I told her calmly if she doesn’t hear from them in a few days to call. And if those two jobs are filled to apply for two different ones. And that it’s honorable to work even as a volunteer. And that she will learn new skills. And it would be great for her.
As a side note...she often seems bored.
She started getting hot under the collar. I said I would give her $4 an hour for any volunteer job she does as an incentive and a gift...although I added that we would have to work out the details.
She then screamed at me that this was less than min wage. I said it was just a small token as a volunteer job is just that...volunteer...but it would allow her some spending money. And it would be a good thing for her and the community.
She then started screaming at me more. I calmly told her I would have to go because I don’t let people scream at me and hung up.
She texted me this huge nasty diatribe (I only read the first sentence or two) that we are terrible people because we should pay for any schooling she wants.
Any thoughts? I’m a little down in the dumps and I’m very tired of the futility of it all. Ugh.
