Nomad
So sorry you had to deal with this. Sigh. Ugh. I do not know anything about any of this type of thing but have had my own adult child issues as you all know.
It seems like what you try to do that is GOOD is received as BAD or turned around in some way to be perceived in a negative way. I do agree, your offer to pay her $4 per hour unintentionally brought out her entitlement. YUCK.
I always thought that I should do things opposite of what I first thought with our son when we were going through our "stuff". Which usually meant doing little and that is okay too. I kind of learned that here to be honest.....so....take care of yourself and don't let it take your joy as you said.
We're here for you! I can only offer you my support and understanding.
Hugs.
