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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 635520" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I'm no expert here, but it does seem like your son could benefit from an advocate of some kind. He may or may not fit the bill, but have you contacted NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness? They can be accessed on line and have many resources for parents. They may at least be able to steer you in some direction if you've already exhausted the Social Services. I'm sure you've turned over many rocks already to help your son. Sometimes it takes just one person who is willing to go the extra mile for a person with special needs. </p><p></p><p>I found great help with an offshoot of NAMI here in California, they had parent support groups where I was able to talk to Social Workers who gave me ideas, resources and helped me to find services for my daughter. Not to say my daughter availed herself to those services, but I did become aware of what was out there for her if she chose to utilize it.</p><p></p><p>I think you did the right thing in withholding the money. Please stop beating yourself up. It is so hard to figure out what to do with our adult kids and adding guilt and self cruelty makes it so much worse. Be kind to yourself, you've been at this a long time and you deserve a break. Give yourself one. </p><p></p><p>Do some research on line looking for resources in your area for adults with your sons issues, ask around, call Social Services, sometimes we have to be a bit of a detective to help our kids when they can't help themselves. I do agree with MWM that if an adult can't help themselves that is very different from someone who chooses NOT to help themselves.</p><p></p><p>Sending along kind thoughts for you tonight. Take care of yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 635520, member: 13542"] I'm no expert here, but it does seem like your son could benefit from an advocate of some kind. He may or may not fit the bill, but have you contacted NAMI, the National Alliance on Mental Illness? They can be accessed on line and have many resources for parents. They may at least be able to steer you in some direction if you've already exhausted the Social Services. I'm sure you've turned over many rocks already to help your son. Sometimes it takes just one person who is willing to go the extra mile for a person with special needs. I found great help with an offshoot of NAMI here in California, they had parent support groups where I was able to talk to Social Workers who gave me ideas, resources and helped me to find services for my daughter. Not to say my daughter availed herself to those services, but I did become aware of what was out there for her if she chose to utilize it. I think you did the right thing in withholding the money. Please stop beating yourself up. It is so hard to figure out what to do with our adult kids and adding guilt and self cruelty makes it so much worse. Be kind to yourself, you've been at this a long time and you deserve a break. Give yourself one. Do some research on line looking for resources in your area for adults with your sons issues, ask around, call Social Services, sometimes we have to be a bit of a detective to help our kids when they can't help themselves. I do agree with MWM that if an adult can't help themselves that is very different from someone who chooses NOT to help themselves. Sending along kind thoughts for you tonight. Take care of yourself. [/QUOTE]
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