I'm not active on here but I posted the other week about my 39 year old difficult child who lost his job due to driving on a suspended license. He is my son who is intellectuslly disabled with an iq of 65. So since my first post I've found out that he has two preliminary hearings coming up for 2 separate dui's. When he lost his job he pulled his measly $4,000 dollars out that he had in his pension. hevthen agreed to give it to me for safe keeping to pay bills etc until he gets another job. Today, he has been harassing me to give him $3,000 for an attorney to represent him at the preliminary hearing. I said no...I feel guilty because it is his money...but I can't imagine it would be worth it. Im racking my brain and beating myself up ovrr this. Please can anyone give me advice.