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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 215011" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>I think your boyfriend should take them to dinner with you, and give your parents the money for their share of the bill. </p><p> </p><p>SO and I don't have any kids together thankfully, but have watched this same senario with my eldest and her kids fathers. All of the bickering over whose holiday this is, whose weekend this is. Kids have sort of become "time slots" - with the "this is my weekend, my holiday" no matter where the kids wanted to be, there was always a problem associated with it, and the kids always end up knowing that either their mother wouldn't let them go, or their father didn't want to take them and really, that is too hard on the kids.</p><p> </p><p>boyfriend should not be passing any comments on how she is lazy and how holidays should be celebrated to this X - that part of his life is over and done with. His life is now being spent with you, and you now have an extended brood that you should always count as being there, and if they aren't, it should not be big deal to put away the two or three extra plates or put them out.</p><p> </p><p>I don't agree its giving the kids "too much control" over where they get to spend any particular holiday weekend. They are kids - they are going to want to go where they feel most comfortible and feel a part of a family. I don't see that as a bad thing. My kids have always been free to see their dads whenever they wanted and opted not to go with the my weekend, your weekend, my holiday your holiday time schedule. </p><p> </p><p>Course having said that, their dads never were involved after the split had taken place <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>Good luck with this one</p><p> </p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 215011, member: 47"] I think your boyfriend should take them to dinner with you, and give your parents the money for their share of the bill. SO and I don't have any kids together thankfully, but have watched this same senario with my eldest and her kids fathers. All of the bickering over whose holiday this is, whose weekend this is. Kids have sort of become "time slots" - with the "this is my weekend, my holiday" no matter where the kids wanted to be, there was always a problem associated with it, and the kids always end up knowing that either their mother wouldn't let them go, or their father didn't want to take them and really, that is too hard on the kids. boyfriend should not be passing any comments on how she is lazy and how holidays should be celebrated to this X - that part of his life is over and done with. His life is now being spent with you, and you now have an extended brood that you should always count as being there, and if they aren't, it should not be big deal to put away the two or three extra plates or put them out. I don't agree its giving the kids "too much control" over where they get to spend any particular holiday weekend. They are kids - they are going to want to go where they feel most comfortible and feel a part of a family. I don't see that as a bad thing. My kids have always been free to see their dads whenever they wanted and opted not to go with the my weekend, your weekend, my holiday your holiday time schedule. Course having said that, their dads never were involved after the split had taken place :) Good luck with this one Marcie [/QUOTE]
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