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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 215345" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Jen, </p><p>This is an issue you've run into before with boyfriend. It seems that he has a strong need to "take care" of women in distress, whether it's his ex, or a co-worker, or whatever. And he doesn't seem to be recognizing when that "taking care" crosses the boundary.</p><p></p><p>When your lives are being negatively affected, emotionally, financially, or however, because your boyfriend is busy rescuing someone else, then that's a huge issue.</p><p></p><p>It seems to me like your boyfriend's ex has his number. Whether intentionally or not, her neediness is driving him to want to fix things for her. Hence the paying of her mortgage, bending over backward to sort out the holiday plans, dealing with her nonsense, taking her calls, listening to her problems and giving advice...</p><p></p><p>I'm glad to hear that you, your easy child and difficult child will be sticking to your original holiday plans regardless. I think your boyfriend needs to realize that he can't be the hero at the expense of you and your family.</p><p></p><p>Just thinking about this, as this is another situation that is causing you unnecessary stress and grief because your boyfriend is rescuing...</p><p></p><p>{{{{{HUGS}}}}},</p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 215345, member: 3907"] Jen, This is an issue you've run into before with boyfriend. It seems that he has a strong need to "take care" of women in distress, whether it's his ex, or a co-worker, or whatever. And he doesn't seem to be recognizing when that "taking care" crosses the boundary. When your lives are being negatively affected, emotionally, financially, or however, because your boyfriend is busy rescuing someone else, then that's a huge issue. It seems to me like your boyfriend's ex has his number. Whether intentionally or not, her neediness is driving him to want to fix things for her. Hence the paying of her mortgage, bending over backward to sort out the holiday plans, dealing with her nonsense, taking her calls, listening to her problems and giving advice... I'm glad to hear that you, your easy child and difficult child will be sticking to your original holiday plans regardless. I think your boyfriend needs to realize that he can't be the hero at the expense of you and your family. Just thinking about this, as this is another situation that is causing you unnecessary stress and grief because your boyfriend is rescuing... {{{{{HUGS}}}}}, Trinity [/QUOTE]
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