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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 614129" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>IAD, can you talk to his therapists and pose your questions to them? I've been around mentally ill family members my whole life and in addition to usually being quite bright, they can also be quite manipulative. You are a very loving and devoted family to your son, you have done whatever is best for him. </p><p></p><p>My first thought upon reading your post is that you are doing an excellent job giving your son everything he needs. Because he doesn't have high speed internet or what he wants doesn't seem like a good enough reason to spend more money and give him everything he needs. He is getting what he needs, perhaps not what he wants. And, when he was moved up to three quarters in Sept. he abused his medications and it took a long time to resolve it. It really sounds like he needs major supervision at this point, not more perks. The fact that he won't connect with his Dad seems to speak to his not liking boundaries at all........from his Dad or from this facility. If I were in your shoes, I think I would wait, talk to the professionals, and really recognize that you ARE doing everything possible for your son right now.</p><p></p><p>I think sometimes when our kids are unbalanced our own parental guilt wants to take over and give them a lot more then is necessary. This may be a time for you to really understand just how much you've already given to your son and how much you really love him and want the best for him. If you really get that now, these kinds of issues may be easier for you down the road. It can be difficult for us to know when we really have done enough when our kids are needy. In my opinion, you've done enough.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 614129, member: 13542"] IAD, can you talk to his therapists and pose your questions to them? I've been around mentally ill family members my whole life and in addition to usually being quite bright, they can also be quite manipulative. You are a very loving and devoted family to your son, you have done whatever is best for him. My first thought upon reading your post is that you are doing an excellent job giving your son everything he needs. Because he doesn't have high speed internet or what he wants doesn't seem like a good enough reason to spend more money and give him everything he needs. He is getting what he needs, perhaps not what he wants. And, when he was moved up to three quarters in Sept. he abused his medications and it took a long time to resolve it. It really sounds like he needs major supervision at this point, not more perks. The fact that he won't connect with his Dad seems to speak to his not liking boundaries at all........from his Dad or from this facility. If I were in your shoes, I think I would wait, talk to the professionals, and really recognize that you ARE doing everything possible for your son right now. I think sometimes when our kids are unbalanced our own parental guilt wants to take over and give them a lot more then is necessary. This may be a time for you to really understand just how much you've already given to your son and how much you really love him and want the best for him. If you really get that now, these kinds of issues may be easier for you down the road. It can be difficult for us to know when we really have done enough when our kids are needy. In my opinion, you've done enough. [/QUOTE]
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