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Oh I get this. My daughter, 41 years old, mother of the two grandchildren I'm raising, hasn't been able to hold a job for more than a few days for the last two years. Her father (my ex of many years) bought her a nice new car when he sold his home and relocated. A year later, the registration has expired, she has no insurance on it for non-payment of premiums, is three months behind on her rent and facing eviction.  How do I let her fail when her children love her so much? She has ADD and depression, so I get her struggle. She's burning through her friends who keep trying to help her, but she is hard to be friends with. So, when she's thrown out of her apartment, what do I do? How do I explain to her children that she's couch surfing but can't live with us? Man, adult kids who aren't adulting is so darn hard. I have the Co-dependant no more as well. But the grandkids are the fly in the ointment for my ability to let her be on the streets. She lives only 20 minutes away.


So Gail, I get it. We are moms first, last, and always. And squashing that and letting go is against every instinct we have. And we have to figure out when our mothering is holding our children back or giving them the the kick in the butt they need. I sure don't have it figured out. You're not alone.


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