An update on my son R. J., who stayed with me a few days after an inpt stay& when I found out he was using money I gave him for porn vs. getting a job. He has moved out of state and is staying with his dad and his new wife. She is not happy about the arrangement and neither is R. J. " All I have is a couch & she complains about that." I told him that was her place and she has a right to those feelings. He continues to not actively seek a job. One interview in the works. I had to make the car payment; however, I will not give him one red cent. The car is for sale and if he gets the job by Jan., he can pick up the payments. His Dad agrees to make a payment for Dec.What do y'all think? The car is a 2008 Altima Nissan. I have had it appraised for the most $2000. I owe $6000 (minus $300 payment that I made). I have broke down and called him. The only time he called me (other than on my birthday, was to ask if he tbought he could get the car if he got the job.) You know what? I am answering my own question. When I talk to him by phone, I am this empathetic and sympathetic MOMMY. "Oh, Son, what would you like for Christmas? Has it gotten cold where you are in KY? Please stay in touch wirh me. That is good you have an interview," & as soon as I get off the phone, I am so f****g mad & want to scream, "JUST GET A F****G JOB! What is wrong with me.?? Am I such a people approving seeking person? Wow! Any feedback &/or support would be appreciated. Thank you!