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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 410554" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>(((((hugs)))))</p><p> </p><p>Ever wonder if your experienced case worker and the various experienced case workers/docs/etc... who have each said that "your difficult child is the worst I have seen in my career" all got together with our difficult children in one big group (professionals and difficult children), do you think they would come up with other ideas that would help? Or just be shocked that so many "worst in 30 years" kids even exist at one time?</p><p> </p><p>I think ambulances would need to be on standby because when thepros realized how many are "that bad or worse" they would each have a heart attack!</p><p> </p><p>One reason the case worker doesn't have many options is because your difficult child has a place to live - with you. With your health, esp the previous heart attack, it is not unreasonable to think about having her spend some time in temporary foster care so that you can have a chance to heal. Asking for that may open up options and/or services. If difficult child has to go to a foster home to keep you from getting worse and for you to have a chance of not dying at a very young age, then they will give her other services. Probably push therapy, etc.... including family therapy so that the family becomes healthier. WHile you have beent hrough a lot, this might be what needs to ahppen for difficult child to wake up and realize that she is so far out of line that she is in another universe.</p><p> </p><p>I know that you don't want to do that. Don't want to think about it actually happening or about how it will impact you both. I think you may be at or very near the point wehre difficult child should be worrying about where she will live because your body simply cannot continue to function under such an enormous stress load. Esp not with all the health problems.</p><p> </p><p>You may want to discuss the foster care option with the caseworker. What options are open now? What about ifyou have a heart attack again, or a stroke? Nervous breakdown? What if you don't recover? Or don't recover enough to be able to resume custody??</p><p> </p><p>You are at the point where this needs to be considered - esp because things are getting worse instead of better.</p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry it has come to this. I wish I could do more to help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 410554, member: 1233"] (((((hugs))))) Ever wonder if your experienced case worker and the various experienced case workers/docs/etc... who have each said that "your difficult child is the worst I have seen in my career" all got together with our difficult children in one big group (professionals and difficult children), do you think they would come up with other ideas that would help? Or just be shocked that so many "worst in 30 years" kids even exist at one time? I think ambulances would need to be on standby because when thepros realized how many are "that bad or worse" they would each have a heart attack! One reason the case worker doesn't have many options is because your difficult child has a place to live - with you. With your health, esp the previous heart attack, it is not unreasonable to think about having her spend some time in temporary foster care so that you can have a chance to heal. Asking for that may open up options and/or services. If difficult child has to go to a foster home to keep you from getting worse and for you to have a chance of not dying at a very young age, then they will give her other services. Probably push therapy, etc.... including family therapy so that the family becomes healthier. WHile you have beent hrough a lot, this might be what needs to ahppen for difficult child to wake up and realize that she is so far out of line that she is in another universe. I know that you don't want to do that. Don't want to think about it actually happening or about how it will impact you both. I think you may be at or very near the point wehre difficult child should be worrying about where she will live because your body simply cannot continue to function under such an enormous stress load. Esp not with all the health problems. You may want to discuss the foster care option with the caseworker. What options are open now? What about ifyou have a heart attack again, or a stroke? Nervous breakdown? What if you don't recover? Or don't recover enough to be able to resume custody?? You are at the point where this needs to be considered - esp because things are getting worse instead of better. I am so sorry it has come to this. I wish I could do more to help. [/QUOTE]
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