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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 371357" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Please do not believe the old school thinking that Borderline (BPD) can not be treated (by the way, often one also has bipolar and the Borderline (BPD) is ignored, but the Borderline (BPD) is probably the hardest for the person to live with). I had it and I didn't even know because all I heard about was bipolar.</p><p>There are wonderful new therapies that REALLY help borderlines (they are in the book) and the most successful is dialectal behavioral therapy. Rather than Borderline (BPD) being hopeless, it is now seen as very treatable, IF (like ALL problems) the person wants help. You can't treat ANY disorder without the person wanting to get better. </p><p>BPDs who internalize often cut or take drugs. I didn't do either...I acted out. I had so much therapy and self-help from an early age and wanting to change that just got tons better even without all the therapy they know about now. But I put out a very strong effort to learn to control my "all over the place" emotions, which I was told were bipolar moodswings (they weren't). </p><p>Most of all I had to learn that it's ok to be alone with myself. Then I didn't need to jump from one relationship to another and I didn't just leave people in the cold (I did this to friends more than boyfriends because i was married at twenty and did not cheat). I'm sure some of my old friends still wonder, "What did I do???" because if I couldn't deal with somebody for any reason, I would just leave them and not explain. But if they left ME, well, I was ready to jump off a cliff...if your kid has this personality disorder, you're familiar with the chaos...lol. I'm so glad I have peace now. I look back and wonder what all the drama was about! I wish I could find everyone I mysteriously left, apologize and at least try to repent, but I don't know where everyone is. Even at this late date, I feel I should offer an apology.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 371357, member: 1550"] Please do not believe the old school thinking that Borderline (BPD) can not be treated (by the way, often one also has bipolar and the Borderline (BPD) is ignored, but the Borderline (BPD) is probably the hardest for the person to live with). I had it and I didn't even know because all I heard about was bipolar. There are wonderful new therapies that REALLY help borderlines (they are in the book) and the most successful is dialectal behavioral therapy. Rather than Borderline (BPD) being hopeless, it is now seen as very treatable, IF (like ALL problems) the person wants help. You can't treat ANY disorder without the person wanting to get better. BPDs who internalize often cut or take drugs. I didn't do either...I acted out. I had so much therapy and self-help from an early age and wanting to change that just got tons better even without all the therapy they know about now. But I put out a very strong effort to learn to control my "all over the place" emotions, which I was told were bipolar moodswings (they weren't). Most of all I had to learn that it's ok to be alone with myself. Then I didn't need to jump from one relationship to another and I didn't just leave people in the cold (I did this to friends more than boyfriends because i was married at twenty and did not cheat). I'm sure some of my old friends still wonder, "What did I do???" because if I couldn't deal with somebody for any reason, I would just leave them and not explain. But if they left ME, well, I was ready to jump off a cliff...if your kid has this personality disorder, you're familiar with the chaos...lol. I'm so glad I have peace now. I look back and wonder what all the drama was about! I wish I could find everyone I mysteriously left, apologize and at least try to repent, but I don't know where everyone is. Even at this late date, I feel I should offer an apology. [/QUOTE]
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