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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 417458" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Steely, I also take a ton of medications but medications are not going to be the be all or end all of all emotions. They will not make our lives perfect. Neither will talking to a therapist even if you see one every day. I had a superbly, wonderful therapist who I saw weekly if not more and who was there for me either by phone or email at the drop of a hat and I still had a difficult time during some very intense times such as my fathers death. All a therapist can really do is talk to you and listen to you for the time you are in the office. Maybe offer a few tidbits of advice but really they are a sounding board. </p><p></p><p>You may be on too many medications or maybe you arent, I have no idea. Do I think inpatient care would be a good idea, again I dont know. I havent done it but one time since I was a teen and the one time I did both my therapist and I decided it was the worst idea in the history of ideas for me. We both said in my case, a weekend at a nice hotel would be a much better idea for me...preferably one with a jetted tub and the ability to order food in! Alone. LOL. </p><p></p><p>I also think its time for you to stop dwelling on the past and attempting to be the perfect person for everyone except yourself. Put you first and do what you want to do. Take a few days for you and then get on with your life. Everyone else can figure their own lives out. You arent responsible for the rest of the world anymore. You can still love Matt, you can still love your mom, you can still be a mom and a daughter but you dont have to fix things. Remember your sister but put the whole death thing to rest. She is gone and nothing you do can bring her back. Its over. Even if by some chance you managed to spend the next 10 years running down leads and making yourself crazy to reopen the case, it still wouldnt bring her back. Let it go. Remember her as she was. </p><p></p><p>You probably think that is easy for me to say because I havent been through anything like that. Well, no I havent but with as much as I had that emotionally turmoiled life with mom where I hated her but still loved her on some level, I had to make my peace with her after she died. For a long time I had lots of anger towards her but finally I let it all go and now I can think of her with peace and it is so much better. I dont keep burdening myself with the stuff associated with her. I think when you get to that point with your sister you will feel more peace. </p><p></p><p>Maybe grief counseling would be the best sort of counseling that would help you since all your issues seem to stem from some form of grief.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 417458, member: 1514"] Steely, I also take a ton of medications but medications are not going to be the be all or end all of all emotions. They will not make our lives perfect. Neither will talking to a therapist even if you see one every day. I had a superbly, wonderful therapist who I saw weekly if not more and who was there for me either by phone or email at the drop of a hat and I still had a difficult time during some very intense times such as my fathers death. All a therapist can really do is talk to you and listen to you for the time you are in the office. Maybe offer a few tidbits of advice but really they are a sounding board. You may be on too many medications or maybe you arent, I have no idea. Do I think inpatient care would be a good idea, again I dont know. I havent done it but one time since I was a teen and the one time I did both my therapist and I decided it was the worst idea in the history of ideas for me. We both said in my case, a weekend at a nice hotel would be a much better idea for me...preferably one with a jetted tub and the ability to order food in! Alone. LOL. I also think its time for you to stop dwelling on the past and attempting to be the perfect person for everyone except yourself. Put you first and do what you want to do. Take a few days for you and then get on with your life. Everyone else can figure their own lives out. You arent responsible for the rest of the world anymore. You can still love Matt, you can still love your mom, you can still be a mom and a daughter but you dont have to fix things. Remember your sister but put the whole death thing to rest. She is gone and nothing you do can bring her back. Its over. Even if by some chance you managed to spend the next 10 years running down leads and making yourself crazy to reopen the case, it still wouldnt bring her back. Let it go. Remember her as she was. You probably think that is easy for me to say because I havent been through anything like that. Well, no I havent but with as much as I had that emotionally turmoiled life with mom where I hated her but still loved her on some level, I had to make my peace with her after she died. For a long time I had lots of anger towards her but finally I let it all go and now I can think of her with peace and it is so much better. I dont keep burdening myself with the stuff associated with her. I think when you get to that point with your sister you will feel more peace. Maybe grief counseling would be the best sort of counseling that would help you since all your issues seem to stem from some form of grief. [/QUOTE]
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