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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 417534" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>Grief has to be experienced, Steely. You have to go thru all the anger, sadness & bittersweet memories. Let the tears flow freely when need be. There is a circle of life here ~ your sister wouldn't want you bogged down in this mire of sadness forever. I can't speak for your father as (sorry) I haven't kept up with all your issues with him. However, he was a big part of your life & there will be emotions.</p><p></p><p>There is the grief of your son - his inability to make it on his own.</p><p></p><p>It's allowing yourself to shut down for a time (knowing that you must re-enter the real world). I spent this past winter watching movies & crying. I knew that the sadness, the grief over my husband, my mom, couldn't be medicated away. I knew the loss from the meningitis & the ensuing brain injury was a reality I had to face & then there's the tweedles.</p><p></p><p>I have a mentor who calls me weekly - she's advised me that it's not one day at a time for me. It's 15 minutes at a time. I sit at my easel & just touch my brushes; can't bring myself to paint yet. I sit at my piano & play scales. I've allowed myself the time to shut down, to cry & am beginning to slowly build my physical & emotional strength back up.</p><p></p><p>In the meantime, do not be afraid to ask for help ~ I put it off too long & now 2 years later I'm just beginning to find the end to paperwork for Steve; addressing estate issues, making my will, & getting a financial power of attorney because I could no longer handle those things. </p><p></p><p>Ask for help - it's okay. With that help I've found strength from the most unexpected places.</p><p></p><p>Take care, my friend. You're in my thoughts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 417534, member: 393"] Grief has to be experienced, Steely. You have to go thru all the anger, sadness & bittersweet memories. Let the tears flow freely when need be. There is a circle of life here ~ your sister wouldn't want you bogged down in this mire of sadness forever. I can't speak for your father as (sorry) I haven't kept up with all your issues with him. However, he was a big part of your life & there will be emotions. There is the grief of your son - his inability to make it on his own. It's allowing yourself to shut down for a time (knowing that you must re-enter the real world). I spent this past winter watching movies & crying. I knew that the sadness, the grief over my husband, my mom, couldn't be medicated away. I knew the loss from the meningitis & the ensuing brain injury was a reality I had to face & then there's the tweedles. I have a mentor who calls me weekly - she's advised me that it's not one day at a time for me. It's 15 minutes at a time. I sit at my easel & just touch my brushes; can't bring myself to paint yet. I sit at my piano & play scales. I've allowed myself the time to shut down, to cry & am beginning to slowly build my physical & emotional strength back up. In the meantime, do not be afraid to ask for help ~ I put it off too long & now 2 years later I'm just beginning to find the end to paperwork for Steve; addressing estate issues, making my will, & getting a financial power of attorney because I could no longer handle those things. Ask for help - it's okay. With that help I've found strength from the most unexpected places. Take care, my friend. You're in my thoughts. [/QUOTE]
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