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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 417577" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>Steely,</p><p> </p><p>I had to let go of my mom years ago due to her mental health & substance abuse issues because I didn't want to be dragged under with her. It seemed very callous and uncaring for me to do this and it was a great burden on me. I felt the burden I was carrying was the price I had to pay (which was flat out wrong but played right into my sense of guilt).</p><p> </p><p>Eventually, this guilt was eating me up so I had to act. I wrote a letter to my mom expressing the good, the bad and everything in between I felt about her and our relationship. It was probably 20+ pages. I then burned the letter, placed the ashes in a soda bottle, closed it up and threw it in the river. It was the only way I could come up with freeing myself from that pain and allow myself to grieve the relationship in a healthy manner. This was several years before my mother died and it helped me greatly when she passed. Perhaps you could come up with some way of letting go of the pain from Matt's issues, H's death, your father's death and the many other things you've endured. The burden is too heavy. I know. I can see you spreading the ashes into the wind or watching them flow downstream... but you're going to need to let go first.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 417577, member: 1722"] Steely, I had to let go of my mom years ago due to her mental health & substance abuse issues because I didn't want to be dragged under with her. It seemed very callous and uncaring for me to do this and it was a great burden on me. I felt the burden I was carrying was the price I had to pay (which was flat out wrong but played right into my sense of guilt). Eventually, this guilt was eating me up so I had to act. I wrote a letter to my mom expressing the good, the bad and everything in between I felt about her and our relationship. It was probably 20+ pages. I then burned the letter, placed the ashes in a soda bottle, closed it up and threw it in the river. It was the only way I could come up with freeing myself from that pain and allow myself to grieve the relationship in a healthy manner. This was several years before my mother died and it helped me greatly when she passed. Perhaps you could come up with some way of letting go of the pain from Matt's issues, H's death, your father's death and the many other things you've endured. The burden is too heavy. I know. I can see you spreading the ashes into the wind or watching them flow downstream... but you're going to need to let go first. [/QUOTE]
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