Son has been 2wks in residential treatment as of last Friday. Support system there is VERY thorough: between psychiatrist, psychologist (his therapist), ARNP's, etc. They are also very concerned about the addict's parents, too. I have basically been told by ALL of them, that I need to attend Al-Anon and/or NA. And continue to use/practice detachment. Psychologist called me this morning and asked me if I was available tomorrow morning (Wed.) at 9am for a 20-30 minute 'speakerphone family (son and I) therapy session'. Of course I am. Now, I am scared to death of saying something wrong and ticking son off. Because I excel at that, lol! Can my friends here help me? What type things should I 'not' say and what are some 'good' things to say? Do I bring up things that son has not expressed, admitted to them..which are important (like how he goes on wks long binges...etc.)? Or, would that be like 'tattling' and tend to tick him off? He is not forthcoming with the staff there, when they call me, I tell them things and then ask them if son has told that and they always so NO. They all say he's been fairly 'guarded' and private. Well...he is not going to get better unless he unloads some heavy stuff, which he's keeping inside. This frustrates me, but then again, he in the past, has gotten ticked off at me if I open my mouth and spill stuff he doesn't 'feel like' talking about. So, zip it? Should I do less 'talking' and more 'listening'? And I want the call to be successful. I have never done this before....thanks!