Gee, I could not POSSIBLY imagine why you would be having anxiety.
I think it is hilarious that husband gave difficult child a hard time about job hunting. Hello, pot meet kettle? They are 2 peas in a pod, and if husband is difficult child's role model, then I can see why difficult child does not think he needs to work.
To me it seems like you are trying to smooth over every problem in your household instead of addressing it with the person that needs to take responsibility for it. In another post you said your son passed up 2 jobs because he didn't like the people. Well, he has no choice. Courts ordered you to pay money for graffiti that HE did, HE should have to pay for it. He should be given a period of time to get a job, like it or not.
husband should be told to get into rehab or leave. He is no longer an asset to the family, but a liability. His job will have to give him time off for this, and it will no longer be him taking sick days. His insurance may even pay for it. But you can't keep pretending that it is OK, because it is not. HE can't keep pretending that it is ok either. It is effecting your children.
This was honest and from the heart. It may have been harsh, and if so, I am sorry. I felt you needed to hear it like this.
If these issues get addressed, perhaps you will not need the anti-anxiety medication for long...
My hugs and prayers are with you.
