generalizations on the decisions some of us have had to make on behalf of our children. Five years ago, I would never have considered placing either of my children in "the system". Would never have considered bringing help into my home, taking the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) route or god forbid, a therapeutic foster care home. Unfortunately, my children's severe illnesses/disorders have forced my hand. I'm lucky - I interview the staff that enters my home. I have a working relationship with "the system". Have worked hard to develop mutual respect with the team I deal with on a daily basis. I think of many parents here who have taken some of the same steps that husband & I have had to take. They never believed their children would end up "in the system". They never believed that those same children would manipulate "the system". (Janna, I pray for you today). If love could cure there would be no need for this board. I would ask that each of you consider all of the options available for your children....never close a door. It may be needed someday. Never say never.....I did & I was wrong.